Right now I'm not sure what to think. I am in a good mood, but have no will to do anything. I could care less if I go to work, get dressed and haven't put on make-up for months. I love my family and have a great relationship with my husband and kids. It seems that I just wanna stay home in my pj's all day long and spend time with them. I miss my LO terribly during the day (18 mo.). I currently work 60-64 hours a week, 40 with my office and 24 with the less fortunate (sp). All is work related and I can't cut back without getting fired. Hubby works 45-47 hours a week and is playing Mr. Mom and doing a wonderful job.
As of 3:30 today I am going to start working out for 45 min (we have a gym at work and are allowed this time to do so if we wish) before ending my long day.
So how do I get out of this funk? Am I depressed? I currently take a low dosage of Zoloft.
All the kids are giong to Grandma's for the night on Saturday and hubby and I are having a date night. I am hoping this helps out a bit. I am going to force myself to get dressed up and wear make-up.
When I felt like that, I started seeing a therapist to talk through things. It was nice to talk to someone neutral and set goals for myself. The biggest thing that helped me though was exercise!! When I consistently exercised (light weight/circuit training and walking/aerobic dvds), I felt sooo much better! It is never easy fitting it in with work and kids, but since you can at work, I would go for it!!
Yes, you may need to have your medicated adjusted.
You also need to make sure you continue to exercise and find something fun to do just for you.
Something grown up. Go out with friends, go on a trip with your husband. Date nights more often.
Also make sure you see a therapist. I promise it will help a ton. Medication alone is not enough.. I know this from personal experience.
It sounds like you're unhappy working so many hours. I know if it were me, it would make me very sad to have my husband do more child-rearing than me. Some moms are OK with it, I'm not. I miss my little guy when I'm at work and I only work 40 hours/week. If you can change jobs, do so. If not, then therapy and possibly more meds might help. But your first option should be to change whatever circumstances make you unhappy first to see if that fixes the problem. In this case, that woudl be your job.
Wait, is this a trick question? Your life sounds fabulous to me!
And who DOESN'T want to blob out in the house all day with their kids?
I think if you TAKE a day and blow off work and hang out in your PJs with your kids, and you're STILL in a funk.....then maybe it's time to up the Zoloft (my fave!) or try something else.
Still, we ALL have those, um, uninspired phases, you know?
:)
First I say yes- it sounds like you are a little down. I am not a huge medication person, but I know a lot of people that have been helped by taking them so I would look into getting that adjusted.
Definitely get back to working out- even if it is just taking a quick walk or something. Sweating and getting your heart rate up will release endorphins and that will help. (also having sex helps too, but if you aren't too happy right now, I totally understand how that may not happen all too often)
INCREASE your Vit D (I have been on 50,000 units a week by my doctors prescription but you can do it yourself).
I know you are so freakishly busy with work and although I was recently laid off, I know what it is like to work a lot. But you need either a project to look forward to or plan some type of activity once or twice a month with your kids to look forward to. I find that if I am just going through the motions all the time, with nothing to look forward to when I get home from work, I get depressed.
Good luck and I hope you get to feeling better.
Working out should help. Sounds like you are tired. 60-64 hours is a long
week. There does not seem to be much time for you which every woman
needs. The gym is a perfect start for you time. Hopefully you have time
during the day to eat and good balance meals. So my advice for whatever
it is worth is, get a good nights sleep, exerise, eat right and take a little time
for yourself. Hang in. Spring will be here before we know it.
I couldn't have said this better then Laurie.
My mom is just getting better after she had to be put on medication and in a hospital, she is a strong, loving mom, so much that she forgets to look for her self, to remember that she is also a women besides a mom, wife, hard working mom).
One thing she has told me after all this happen, is that while medicines had help her a lot, is the therapist sections that she has found the most helpful.
I believe is a combination of many things but one part is also that for 1/2 hour a week, she gets to put everything on the side and focus on her and talk about her.
I really hope you feel better soon, and exercise is prove to help wonders too.
I would say you're not depressed you're overworked. We'd all be depressed if we had to work SIXTY hours away from our babies. ARe you saying you work 60 hrs and then Volunteer 24 hours?? Can you change your life before you miss your baby growing up? She'll be an adult saying "I raised myself" I know it's hard in this economy to find a new job, so I dont know if you can make a life change or not but think hard about what you can do to make the quality of your life better.
You are working too many hours. Cut back where you can. Your health and your children need top on your list. Your hormones might be making you have a bad day and feeling depressed. If it continues go see a specialist. Do what you can for yourself and stop working so many hours while still trying to be a great mom.
Hope you feel better soon.
I think you're working too much. I also think doing outdoor activities would help your mood alot. There is nothing like some sunshine!!
Sounds like you're burned out.
Are you able to look for another job?
