D.N.
I agree that if possible, sit down with her and let her know her child is being rejected. I don't know what kind of job she has that would not require her to have good hygiene but I would throw out one more thing. THis is not to give an excuse but...is there a chance she could be suffering from depression? A former friend of mine did not pay close attn to her kids for almost 2 yrs. They would be dirty going to school, would play at lunch time. Finally the principal at the school had a conference with her and asked her if there was anything she could do because the kids came to school dirty and smelling awful. She was able to convince her to see the school counselor who got her to go to the doctor. She took an antidepressant under doctors care and I heard things have improved a lot. Her kids are honor students..and clean. She also stopped smoking and drinking.