my brother's ex-wife is causing him alot of trouble. on the weekends that he has the children( girl 12yrs, boy 6yrs) he takes them to church, his ex does not go to his church anymore, she and her new husband and thier child go to another church, she has it in the divorce pappers, that he not attend her church, the problem is that when he has the kids, she comes to his church to invad his time with the children, and to be mean to his new wife. she(ex-wife) left him 4 another man, why want she leave him alone, to enjoy his kids. he is a very good dad, he would never do anything to cause them any pain, she on the other hand, seems to want to cause trouble, even in church, by sitting next to him and his new wife, why would she do this?
thank you for all the resp, my brother had a talk with pastor of his church, the pastor told him if she came back, she would be asked to leave, again thank you
I think since it's a bit late for him to do the same thing that she has in the divorce papers where he can't come to her church to make HER unable to come to his ... find another church and don't let herk now where it is.
It's sad when these psychotic bitches can make a man's life miserably by using their children they have together.
It sounds like the ex-wife is miserable and having trouble with her decision of cheating on and ultimately divorcing your brother. Maybe trying to make him miserable is her way of acting out her anger towards herself for cheating on him. Perhaps, she has her own problems in her new marriage and sudenly her old one doesnt look so bad. It's possible that in the back of her mind she thinks she can have him back by breaking up him and his new wife.
Why doesnt he put in the legal papers for her to stay away from his church.
Because obviously she sees that he is happy once again. She is not happy with her life and wants to cause him some unhappiness also in some sort of sick way. He needs to take her back to court, and have it put into the papers that she stay away from him when it is his time with the children.
Sounds to me like she is overbearing. Maybe she is jealous, maybe she is trying to flaunt something....who knows. Her behavior sounds very childish to me. The best thing for them to do though, is to make ammends for the children's sake. I have been there too. My exhusband is now married to the woman he had an affair with while we were married. It has been 6yrs since that happened, and now we are all friends. In my opinion, the best thing to do is get over it, call a truce and show that you have happily moved on.
I feel sorry for your brother's new family though. That is so unfair that she invade their space while he has his children.
sounds like she is upset that he has moved on with his life and started a new one with someone else. She was probably hoping that he would be devastated without her. He should tell her that the court did not order supervised visits and that she should go to her own church when he has the kids.
AT THIS POINT SINCE THE EX-WIFE IS BEING SO CHILDISH YOU MAY NEED TO TELL YOUR BROTHER TO EITHER CONTACT HIS LAWYER OR GO TO THE POLICE TO SEE WHAT CAN BE DONE BEFORE IT GET UGLY!!!!!!
tell him to get a restraining order so when she shows up there she would be breaking that order.+
HI W.,HAS YOUR BROTHER OR YOU POSSIBLY THOUGHT OF TALKING WITH THE PASTOR ABOUT THIS SITUATION MAYBE HE COULD HELP TO RESOLVE IT.POSSIBLY,EVEN ASK HER TO ATTEND ON THE WEEKEND THAT SHE HAS THE CHILDREN NOT ON THE WEEKENDS THAT YOUR BROTHER HAS THEM. SOMETIMES JUST A SUGGESTION SUCH AS THIS FROM A MAN OF GOD IS ENOUGH TO ENCOURAGE SOMEONE TO STOP BEING SPITEFUL. BUT IF NOT MAYBE YOUR BROTHER COULD POSSIBLY TALK TO HIS LAWYER ABOUT THIS AND HAVE HER TO NOT INTERFER WITH HIS WEEKENDS WITH HIS CHILDREN. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND TO YOUR BROTHER AND HIS FAMILY!!MAY GOD RICHLY BLESS YOU ALL AND REMEMBER AS FAR AS YOUR EX-SISTER IN LAW GOES I KNOW THAT SHE IS ANNOYING BUT REMEMBER THAT THE BIBLE SAYS THAT SHE WILL REEP WHAT SHE IS SEWING!!AND THE BIBLE SAYS ALSO,THAT VENGANCE IS MY SAYTH THE LORD.YOU MAY WANT TO POLITELY REMIND HER OF THESE VERSES IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO LEAVE YOUR BROTHER ALONE.WHILE YOU REMIND HER THAT SHE LEFT NOT YOUR BROTHER. P.S I HAVE NERVE DAMAGE SO I'M NOT YELLING I ALWAYS TYPE IN ALL CAPS, IT'S JUST EASIER!
Since your brother's ex-wife had put in the divorce papers that he not attend her church...he needs to go to his attorney and get the same for her. What she is doing is harrassment and she is interferring with a "court order" for his visitation. For someone that goes to church...she certainly does not sound like a Christian! My best wishes for your family.
L.
Has he considered changing churches...and not telling his ex where he is attending?
Hey W.,
Could your brother go back to the courts and have a stipulation put in that she can not attend his church? It seems only logical to me that if he can't go to her church, she shouldn't be able to go to his.
Best of luck to him, his kids and you!
Cheers! B.
Hi W.,
My brother's ex was very dificult, too. After they separated, she moved out of state. He had custody of their son (then 10), she had custody of their daughter (then 5). When they met to drop off and pick up the kids after visitation, she would show up whenever she got around to it, sometimes an hour or more late without calling. If he got stuck in traffic, he would call to let her know and she would tell him that if he was late, she would call they police.
If it's too late to amend the divorce papers, you might suggest to your brother that he visit a different church each time he has visitation for a few of his visitation weekends (until she gets tired of going to his church and him not being there). Then, he could go back to his regular church. If she does show up, get up and move or sit in a place that she can't sit next to them.
My brother still has his son, who is now in college, and his daughter is coming to live with him in the fall. The obnoxious parent doesn't always win!
Good luck!
