Help - Bell,CA

I am so sorry you are struggling. I can only tell you i am a child of a similar situation. my mother and step father had 8 of us between them it was a rough road but i am so glad they pulled through. my step father was speraticaly employed and unfortunately it is still that way my mother after being a stay at home mother for 12 years had to re join the workforce and is the main breadwinner these days. they have been married 19 years. and she has worked all but 2 of those years. it is a hard road but they truly love each other and with prayer and patience i think got them through.

we were ages 14years-18months old and it was just hard.
I cant imagine what what it was like for my mom but for me it was wonderful to see a loving, grounded relationship. although it was crazy with 5 boys sleeping in a tent in the yard all of us trying to share 1 bathroom not to mention meal time, our parents helped us have a scene of teamwork a feeling that we had to work together to make it and we did. now we are all grown with families of our own, there are still sibling issues at times but nothing more than biological siblings would deal with as well. My parents now have the time to enjoy each other. it worked backward and i guess they were willing to wait for that. There were a lot of mistakes made in trying to rear each others children for sure but I'm glad they stuck with it.
this is just my experience only i hope it will help.

G.,
I am sorry for your situation. I am sure you are feeling helpless and frustrated to want to walk away from someone you love. You will most definetely be in my thoughts and prayers. Remember Isaiah 40:31. Your strength will rise when you wait upon the Lord.
Also, you mentioned that you are looking for a job to do at home. I work from home. Love to share a little about it with you. What area do you live in? You can send me a personal email if you would like. I'd love to share.
P.

Hi there, I'm sorry this has gotten difficult for you, I recommend the book, the Smart Step Family. It has tons of info and stories that can help you. Best of luck to you

Sorry, I know this can be difficult, but it can be the MOST rewarding of all relationships if you can make it past these difficult couple of years. A good book is Blended Marriage Building a United Family after Remarriage by Gary Smalley. You can get it at Amazon for a buck or two. Have you talked to your pastor/priest whom ever? Most areas have "groups" that you could meet with and share your experiences and get some advice on how to better cope with different situations. It is important to talk with other families that are blended, there are many more dynamics that go into a "blessed blended" family, a lot of "ground" work, more so than a "traditional" family, mostly because the children need to respect Both parents and that is sometimes hard depending on their ages and the relationship w/their other parents. Be patient, you ALL have been through a lot, time will heal all.
Best wishes,
K.

You will receive many wonderful responses I'm sure to your request! I have been blessed through my business to have been able to be a "stay-at-home" mom for the past 16 yrs. I would be happy to share with you what I've done - if you have an interest in helping others, not having to sell and being part of a growing, successful debt-free 23 year old company, just email me! Best wishes to you and your family.

I can totally relate! I have two older step children-17 and 16. I have to say of all my struggles in life-this is one i feel defeated in. It is awful, and it is not them, it is me. Just the thought of them coming on the weekends gives me a migraine. No joke. My struggle is nore "values" related as thier mother lives a different life then we do-naturally. I have a girl-10, and my husband and i had a baby that is 1. Pray for discernment, don't let the enemy cause division. Have you prayed for you husband? Reading that you describe him as a loving christian man, i bet his heart is soft to recieve from the the Lord? It is a touchy subject-and i myself have let bitterness take root in my heart. I am just now dealing with those things. I wish i had not held in my feelings for so long...i am at a point where i share open and honestly with my husband. I have really seen him step up the past few months in the areas that concern me. We are vistoious in Chist, don't walk away. Deal with the issue at hand with a couple you trust at church or your pastor. praying for you!!

Hi there well the great thing about your comment is your children have loving and christian parents to guide them and protect them. Contact real estate offices in your community ask if they need typing services to get your foot in the door. Ask your husband to meet with your church leaders and meet with the mens fellowship to ask the men for resources perhaps your husband will find a better job. Go to the web and search all the free job postings. You and your husband made a commitment, God will provide the money needed keep busy don't argue with your spouse open the doors with prayer and faith if you need money ask
parents in your community if they need child care assistance for date nights your children can play with them and you can get paid. I pray I have encouraged you through these times. I am single one grown child married. But my heart goes out to families today who are keeping and pulling together. Stay strong stay in love God will show
you great things from your perserverance.