Hi, well coming from a mom that has a child with ADHD and Bipolar medicine was our only choice for his safety and everyone else. But your son is too young for medicine right now anyways. Everyone told us your son is spoiled but the doctor confrimed something was wrong. It took several years after he was diagnoised with ADHD at the age 4 that we found out he has Bipolar too. Some kids just out grow the tamtrums. I have come across a few parents that were they were told their child has ADHD when in fact they don't. If it is true your child has ADHD, you need to pick your battles and let the doctors decide if medicine is right for them. My son now 12 1/2 has been on medicine since he was 4 1/2 years old, with trial and error he has the right combination and he can function like most normal children other wise he was very violent without medicine. Don't use medicine as your first choice but never rule it out for his health or safety.
Keep in mind we chose medicine because we could not take him anywhere, walmart, dinner, movies, other peoples house, he did not do well with other kids, or loud noise's about 70% of the time. We were also told by some to watch what he eats but that did not help either.
Other things to think about. What did he do during the day that he is fine till he got home? Did he need a nap to rest himself? Zachary had to be doing something with his hands to keep him occupied and from blowing up. I know it was a bad thing but hand held games kept our sanity when we had to keep him busy or go someplace with him, a doctor even said he is the type that had to keep his hands busy when he was bored. Watch what he does, write a daily log to find out what makes him mad and what make him happy. Do you give more attention to his sister cuz she has epilipsey and he sees that? Track it when you can and it will help you and any profesional if you need to get help in the future if/when you go that route.
If you have anymore questions about what my ex-husband and I went through please e-mail me.