Hello, I'm looking for some activities or sports to put my child in this summer. He is 6 years old and at times can be VERY angry and defiant. I am really interested in things outdoors and was trying to find a possible sports team or - just something! We need to increase our bonding time together but I don't want the other kids to think he's a meany and have nothing to do with him. Thanks for any help!
C.,
You may want to try individual sports first. Let him get a handle on his own physical prowess first before throwing him into a crowd of kids. I would suggest rock climbing, hiking, sprint races, even going to the batting cages. When he's comfortable there, you can try him in a team sport. Good luck!
Hi, how are you. I also have twins who are ADHD and defiant. They are 14 years old now. At the age of 6 or 7, it was difficult for me to deal with their behavior especially in public. It takes patience and energy on our part.
I found that starting the twins in organized activities would keep them busy and entertained. As they got older, I reduced those activities so they could build their independence.
Martial arts and active sports are great to help out. Sports which require alot of running like soccer, basketball and so forth. But instructors and coaches have a way to reach a child and get them focused outside the home.
The other thing I did for my boys was provided counseling with a family therapist who was able to get my twins to release their felt frustrations. I really do not believe medicine is the cure so I did not chose to go that route. Good luck.
HI,
Think balance...sports are rough sometimes. Nature, the woods, a quiet pond, are balanced and harmonious. Try spending time in the most peaceful place you know. Let your child have as much freedom as is safe...freedom to climb trees, hunt crawfish in a creek, pick dandelions. Nature can do wonders, even miracles.
Then if I were you I would start looking at diet. Natural foods, natural herbs. Mother Earth really does know best. Take an herb walk with a local herbalist, learn what herbs are nearby that heal. Let your kids eat sourgrass, clover blossoms, and plaintain.
There are many good books that talk about this..."The last Child in the Woods" speaks to the scientific findings about childhood disorders and the disconnections from nature.
Go back to nature everything is good there.
Peace,
Jas
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Hello,
First of all let me start out by sayin, i know myself how this can effect not only the child but everyone around him. God Bless You.
My daughter at the age of 2 1/2 was diagnosed with ADHA also...and was suppose to b put on the medicine, instead i went looking for other methods, i found t-ball, gymnastics, cheerleading etc...at the age of then 5 she was still active but was no longer diagnosed with ADHD, so you can try some of those around your communtity call your local YMCA. or Parks and Recs. I hope this helps.
God Bless.
P.
The YMCA does sports for all ages. They also have summer camps if it is something you are interested in. Also bernheim forest, the zo, nature center, and things like that are good for bonding time.
have you thought about some kind of martial arts? It may be good for displacing some of his emotions in a more positive way.
You might want to consider martial arts. They teach the whole mind-body control thing, which I've heard helps a lot with ADHD. Here in Fayetteville, there is a Christian Martial Arts Association that is AWESOME!
A team sport may not be the best idea. Try individual sports like martial arts, tennis, swimming, etc. You could even take lessons together.
I would think Karate would be great for him and it would be consisitant. Soccer, basket ball etc end after a few weeks but Karate he can do all the time.
God blessed you with a lot of patience, I hope. My son has ADHD and was very impulsive... did first, thought later. In situations, always help him work on the problem and not the person if that makes sense (so he doesn't get a poor self esteem- they literally can't control themselves sometimes.)
It was recommended that Karate is an excellent activity because it helps teach discipline. Also, he's with, but not interacting directly with the others. My son plays ice hockey, and it's great too, but I don't recommend it because it is a huge commitment (from buying equipment and getting it on and off, to expense.) Good luck!
Hi C.! Sorry to hear of the problems your son has. I have a grandson that I'm raising and he is adhd,bipolar,ocd and tourettes! Talk about a fast lane and roller coaster ride. It is hard for Granny to keep up at 52yrs old. My advice is to get him to a neurolighist. I take my grandson to Labonuer in Memphis, Tn. I tried Drs and had no luck. These children have a real hard time playing with other children. They are mostly loners. Please get some professional help for him and to help you deal with this disease. The sooner you accept the problem and start dealing with it, the better off you will be. Also stay with a secdule. Anything out of secdule will upset him a lot. If you would like to talk or just need support sometime, let me know and I will give you my email address. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers, cause if you are like me, this is a problem you will need a lot of help and support with. R.
Dear C.,
Please take a long thorough look at www.Feingold.org and you may not have to worry about which sport is best for your son. My ADHD daughter was 10 and had so many violent episodes that I was truly afraid she would hurt me someday. Then I learned that the petro-chemicals in our foods cause ADD,ADHD,OCD,ODD,Bi-polar,etc. Feingold was a Godsend for us and if you are comitted to healthy eating it can truly change your life. Best wishes.
L. B.
I don't have some activities to recommend but have you consulted someone in the holistic field? I would like to really encourage you to look into some alternative type of medicine for your child. So much of what you are describing your son if suffering from can be helped greatly through muscle testing, herbs, diet modification, acupuncture. Feel free to respond back to me if you need more information if you have never looked into other options beyond tradtional medicine.
Hey! I'm soooo glad that you recognize that God chose you to be the parent of this special gift! With your attitude, you and your son will be just fine! It won't be easy, but then again, we're not promised an easy time, only the strength from God to do what must be done. Some things that will help your son will seem VERY difficult at the time, but will be just what he needs to learn to control himself. Stay strong and CONSISTENT!!!! He NEEDS structure and consistency! He will rely on you to provide those things for him until he is able to do it himself. He has to be able to TRUST you to do what you say you are going to do, no matter how unpleasant he thinks it is. Stay strong in the Lord! Remember Proverbs 22:6 says, "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old , he will not depart from it." :-)
Hello C.. I am a mother of an ADHD child. He was diagnosed when he was 6. He is 8 now and his doctor and cousenlor told me to put him in karate. I did and he really enjoys it. It also help with his self control and disipline problems. Don't get me wrong he still has his days but don't we all but it's isn't anything like it was. He's been taking karate for about a year and his father and I and his teachers have seen a difference. Give it a try.
It might be a good idea to look into programs at the YMCA. I know that swimming is supposed to be great for bonding and relaxing children.
