This is even embarrassing to write - I have a 16 month old daughter that "grinds" (rubs up and down)herself. If she is in a stroller she will grind up and down, if she is in a high chair at a restaurant she grinds, in her high chair at home and her car seat all through the ride wherever I go she is "grinding". I have stopped taking her places because she does it everywhere and people stare and talk. Has anyone else experienced this with their daughters?
First of all, I want to thank everyone for their answers and getting involved. I have taken Gianna to the dr she has no yeast, bladder or any other infection. Its is NORMAL! whew! So i guess now I just have to wait until she stops this. I have talked to her and told her when its ok and when not, but she is only 16 mo's old she doesnt understand quite yet. So I guess time will tell! Thanks everyone!
get homeopathic Hyoscyamus 12C. stop giving it to her as soon as you see improvement.
Good Luck
V.
You are not alone!! My daughter, now almost five, has been "grinding" since she was 6 mos. old. First in the high chair, then in shopping carts, then in her carseat. When we were out in public grocery shopping, I would almost die from the embarassment of it. What helped was talking to her about how it was private and should be done in privacy. We didn't want her to think it was naughty; just private. Now she only does it in the car every now and then. Don't worry, k? We've been there! :)
can you blame her? LOL
my daughter is 20 months and SCREAMS when i put the diaper on cuz she doesn't have access.
Its a phase. i think. my son went through something similar
if there's no medical concern, tell her that is okay at home, but not out and about. I believe in a-time-and-a-place for everything, so if she's curious about her body, let her (it's normal), but only at home. Maybe you can offer something else fun or stimulating to do with her hands when out. (I'm sure easier said than done, but no one ever said parenting was easy!)
My 2yr old has been touching herself, and for the last 10 months LOVES the shower sprayer directly up on her "girl parts". I also wonder how long I should let her continue this, but so far, no harm no foul.
Are you sure she doesn't have a yeast infection? If she's itchy she'll want to scratch.
After ruling out any medical issues... don't worry. It may be embarrassing but it is completely natural. Kids begin to feel sensations and notice things feel good. They of course do not feel it in the same way we adults do but rubbing feels good just as rubbing their arm or leg feels good. My daughter is a month older than yours and has begun grinding on her big stuffed dog. In the bath she pokes it and rubs it and calls it her "Gyna" over and over. They are discovering something new. Everything I have read regarding child developement tells me this is normal.
Try not to make a big deal about it, you don't want her to feel shameful about her lady parts :)
try asking your Pediatrician.
But yes, from a certain age... a young child realizes their sensations... and things about their body. Not in an "adult" way... but its just an innocent reaction thing. And at this age, they don't have complete impulse control, anyway.
Normal. And its usually just a phase. My girl did that too.... when she was a toddler. Then it stopped.
Or yes, maybe she is itching there.
Or it could mean other things.
So ask your Pediatrician.
All the best,
Susan
A friend of mine has a daughter who did the same thing..at 18 mos though..she stopped after a month...I think theyre discovering their personal area! Dont worry about it too much...she's a baby!
My daughter does this, although not in public... at home we've asked her to give herself some privacy and go in another room. She was doing it a lot around age 2 and not so much anymore. Now when she does (she is 3), she will go in another room without being asked. But again, I think the novelty wears off after a while, so your daughter won't likely be doing it a lot for very long. Just make sure you remove her from any public situations when she starts up to drive the point home that this is a private thing.
My niece did this but only her car seat. My son did the same thing but only in bed. You have to try to explain that it is something you do in private not in front of other people. I know it's hard for a 16 month old to understand that but keep trying and she'll eventually understand. Hope this helps! Good luck!
she might have a bladder, yeast infection!!
Hi M.,
I just saw this post and wanted to add my thoughts. I had a friend who's little one did this also and it ended up that she had a hernia. Very strange for a girl and also for one so young, but that what what it was and as soon as she had surgery she stopped.
Take care!
I can relate, my daughter about the same age did the same but only during nap time. The only advice I found online was not to make a big fuss of it because you don't want them to identify it(the sensation) as a "bad" thing later. If there is a pattern (like if she's tired) you can make sure to be home before/during naptime. If she continues after the age of 3 you may be able to reason with her by telling her that this is a private thing and that it's OK to do it at home but not while out in public. They do out grow it, hopefully that will give you some hope.
