17 Mo. Old Son Playing with His Weiner

Normal, normal, very normal! I have two boys, now 9 & 6. They both did & still do put their hands in their pants. Just teach him that this is somthing he does in privacy, because other people don't want to see him. If you tell him that he is bad, naughty, etc., he'll have issues. Knowing it is normal, just guide him in th eright dorection. He is still just a baby so don't make a big deal out of it. He'll phase out of it, and right back in again!! He's a boy so don't make him feel badly about his body, just let him know when & where he can do it1

Its normal behavior. However have your pediatrican rule out a urinary tract infection since he pulls it out and pees. He also may be ready for potty training even though hes young.

He's not trying to get attention. He's just made a fascinating discovery and it feels good to touch it. Why wouldn't he be interested in it? I'm sure it is hard to have him peeing all over everything, though. My daughter is 18 months old and is humping her car seat buckle. Thank God she's found a way to self-soothe in the car. :-) Kids understand more at this age than they can express. You might try to just continue to talk to him about why it's important to keep his diaper on and give him some naked time each day to do with what he will.

How can you tell a 17 mth old not to play with his weiner....would he know what a weiner is? He is discovering himself and he has feelings there. At this age, he should be allowed to explore, himself.... My son in the morning (22 mths) is erect and some days, even I'm like ew... he is too young for it to be like that...but I guess not. He touches in amazement too. Now after potty training.... I can see discouraging him from touching so much...where it might be offensive to others as well as teach about privates and in private and how no one should be touching his privates, and what "some" of its intended use is for (urination)....but he is a boy......i believe boys are different. They will always be amazed by their penises. The human body is nothing to be ashamed of. I plan on using all parts of the body and situations regarding them as an opportunity to teach him how wonderfully unique we are designed along.

HE'S A BOY! My husbands 38 and still touches his weiner! Joking aside...it's very natural and normal. Just tell him that it's ok to touch his OWN body, but it's best to do it in the privacy of his own room.

I think you have the right idea with the one piece clothing, thats about all you can do to try to contain the pee. I would layer so he can't even get to it, put big boy undies on top of his diaper and make a big fuss over how cool they look, get some with a character he likes. This will keep the diaper in place better and distract him from whipping his business out. Then go for overalls or a onesie if you need to, but i bet if he picks out some cool undies with you, that might just do the trick. Best wishes !

I used to tell my son to wave good bye to it when I secured the diaper. When he was a bit older, I would look at him touching, ask him if it was still there and then say "good, now say good bye and get your hands out of your pants". Not a big deal.

Hi H.,

This is normal - I would just put him in clothes that make it impossible to get to the twig and berries for now, it is a phase and he'll "forget" about it after a couple of days, except for tub time...but hey...if you can't play with your twig in the tub, when can you?

Enjoy your little boy, and you know...he'll always play with it - this may just be a sign that he is "advanced."

Hugs.

Dear H.,

When you see him doing that, just make sure that you redirect his attention without letting him know that you are noticing what he is doing.

Like, um, sit him down in the high chair and give him a couple of pieces of cold ice, and you have to stay there so he won't choke, I know that this sounds silly, but It does give his hands something else to do. Or water play, or bubbles, or I don't know whatever will truly interest and engage him. He will forget to do it and you won't have a peepee sticking out of his diapers. C. N.

Hi H., You just need to tell him, get your hands out of your pants, if you don't nip it in the bud now it may get worse later. I have a 21 month old in my daycare who's is parents just though it was normal, so they did nothing, now at 21 months, he's not only playing with his own, he goes for his dad's too, now they started slapping hands each time, and he is getting better. J.

Needless to say this situation has long since worked itself out but pisswater all over the nursery must have more fun than a barrel of monkeys! Sorry but this is much like non-toilet trained 3 year olds running naked thru the house: more trouble than it's worth. My kids stayed in their diapers, IN THEM, until the messes of babyhood were over. Nothing nostalgic about those stinking early days, really; puppies were easier to housebreak.

Hi H.:
Your son is not playing with himself,because he seeks attention.This behavior is quite normal for both boys and girls,this age. They find their genitals,and realize they get a certain amount of pleasure from touching themselves.It's not recomended by professionals to appear disgusted or to suggest it's in any way dirty.This can create problems for them latter on in life,when they should feel pleasure,and can't because they have grown up to believe its (Bad )Your son,is far to young to know,what is appropriate in public and whats not.Each time you see him begin to play with himself,tell him,to go do that in the bathroom,or go potty. Tell him that people don't do that in front of others.Its something you do all by yourself.You could compare it to going poop.I'd say "You wouldn't poop in front of everyone"."And this you don't either".I wouldn't nag him about it, but when you catch him doing it,just tell him to go to the bathroom.I wish you,and your growing son the best.

Bad habits sometimes doesn't go away. Ny neighbors son at the age of two started doing this and never stopped he is 16 yrs old now and still plays with it right in front of people, I finally started speaking up about it to embarrash him. Although he still does it, not even noticing he is doing it. I think its normal for young kids young babies to find a new object on there body , if your really concerned have him checked for a yeast infection maybe thats why he is rubbing it. I think its a stage, until then diapers then a diaper panty cover then his clothes or something. Give him something to keep in his hands maybe. He isnt to young to understand the word No !!

When my boys did that, I just pulled their hands out and told them that that wasn't ok. Be consistent and it should at least lessen in frequency. Good luck.