Having a Baby - Quincy,FL

Updated on April 17, 2010
K.H. asks from Quincy, FL
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I have two kids but i want one more and im 40 year old. What to do?

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S.S.

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Apopt. Just because you can get pregnant, doesn't mean you should. Too many risks for mother and baby. Children of older moms have way too many developmental delays.

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E.R.

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Hopefully it won't be a problem for you. I had a healthy baby boy at the age of 44. Good luck to you!!

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A.S.

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Have sex. I hear it works. :)

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J.G.

answers from Cleveland on

If you want another one - have it... as long as your hubby wants it as well. Sister is 36, but her hubby is in close to 60 and they have a 2 yr old and are trying for another one now. Live life to it's fullest & grab whatever your heart wants - as long as you aren't hurting anyone.

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L.A.

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If your husband is on board, go for it..

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

I have 2 kids. My 2nd child was born when I was older than you. We got pregnant naturally... according to my ovulation symptoms.
I don't feel "old" nor consider myself "old." LOL

All my pregnancies were fine and normal and my kids born fine and healthy. I did have the amnio though, with both of my pregnancies..... it was fine.

Just make sure that you have the time and energy. I don't know how old your existing children are.
For me, 2 children are enough... and just right. If I had a third, well that's fine. But it would not be a planned one! LOL

Make sure your Husband feels the same way as you, wanting another child.

All the best,
Susan

K.C.

answers from Dallas on

my mom had my twin brother and sister naturally when she was 41. the only thing to watch out for is older moms have a tendency to have kids with down syndrome or autism, even if it doesn't run in the family. good luck :)

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D.W.

answers from Jacksonville on

I'm sure you know of the health risks and the increased risks of there being health problems with the child. So, think about it and what you can handle, and think about the what the child will go through IF there is a problem.
A friend and I were just talking today about her mother who had her last child at 41 and she has down syndrome. The mother said, if she could do it again, she would have stopped before 40. Not because she doesn't love her daughter with down syndrome, but, the daughter is currently 30 and has a hard time adjusting, and always will.

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C.W.

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i had a baby last year at 38 very healthy baby. In fact she is testing ahead of milestones for her age. Very alert. My ped and ob both said because of my good health and good lifestyle they would rather see me have another one then many of the early 20's moms they regularly see.
Currently ttc myself.

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J.S.

answers from Miami on

You may want to be more specific with this question - it's common for women around your age to conceive a child, so it's not clear what your concern is.

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N.F.

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Well first thing's first, discuss it with your partner. Your profile doesn't say anything about you yet so I don't know what your relationship status is. Either way, you both need to be on the same page. If you don't have a partner, it is still a big decision. Once you've decided to continue with trying for a 3rd child, consult your doctor as soon a you can. You'll need to discuss the pros and cons of being pregnant at 40. As women get older certain risks become more prominent.

Good luck to you and hope you figure it out soon!

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T.O.

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The only person who can answer that question is you and your husband. I am 40 in a couple of weks with 3 children aged 22, 14, 8. For the last 3yrs i have been asking myself the same question and get the same one, in theory i would love one in practice the reality hits hard. There are lots of things to consider, the ages of the children you have, what f i were to have a short life span do i want to leave them without a mother at say 10yrs old. Money, can we still be comfortable. Attention to the other children you already have, as you know all your attention would be on the new arrival. Taking these factors into conideration i feel it would be selfish on the children i have to have another, less time and money available, the money may not be important to the younger ones, but as they approach teenagers it is. Also there are 8yrs difference between my children or there abouts and with my 22yr old still at home going to university, his lifestyle impacts on my other children as does my 14yr olds especially on my 8yr old. I suggest you write down th positives and negatives and see which comes out best. I still fight with myself on this and suppose i will until my grandchildre come along, i am doing my best to be patient and wait for tyhat to happen, hopefully with my eldest in the next 5yrs or so.

Good luck in making your decision, it's a tough one, one that i have not been able to make a firm decision on :)

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R.S.

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40 is still young. If you want one, go for it!!!

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R.K.

answers from Tampa on

I had my 3rd at 41 - best pregnancy - a true joy of a child.
I say go for it!

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T.S.

answers from Miami on

First you have to ask yourself if you indeed want another child, or is it that you miss having a little one around and simply have an itch. If you like having children around but don't necessarily want to give birth to them you could foster or adopt. Make sure you have an open discussion with your partner and make sure they want another child or having another child without them in agreement, could put a tension on your relationship. Many people are choosing to have children later in life so 40 isn't too old. Some people state that their energy levels are lower and they lack patience, some complain that they would be paying for university for their child when they could have been using that money to retire, others love having a baby at 40 and state the baby brought a new energy to them and they love that they can now slow down and enjoy their little one without the stresses they had when they had their first child. These are all statements you have to ponder and decide for yourselves. Good luck

t had there

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H.N.

answers from Tampa on

Have another one! Im not sure exactly what your asking-but talk with your physician about your concerns-but you can still have a baby at 40.

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N.E.

answers from Miami on

You may want to consider adoption as an option.

J.M.

answers from Tampa on

If you don't know, and have not discussed it with your (in)significant other, don't!

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J.J.

answers from Tallahassee on

See your doctor and ask that same question. Understand going in that there are increased risks for both you and baby. I suggest exploring your feelings about having a baby with Downs Syndrome, for example, will you be capable of handling that, if it is the outcome? Or is your family complete enough as is? I realize not every over 40 pregnancy is destined for that outcome, but the risk increase is undeniable. No matter your choice - good luck.

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