Have You Ever Forgotten to Pay for Something and Been Arrested???? UPDATE...

Updated on November 14, 2011
L._. asks from Lakeside, CA
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So mom just picked up baby. That's why I wasn't ready to jump the gun on calling social services. I was hoping it would be something simple. Frankly, I'd keep baby for days if it came to it. This is the first time that this has been the reason for one of my mothers to be arrested. Usually it's something related to driving on suspended licenses or putting false tags on their unlicensed cars. Mom was on the phone and distracted. She paid for the food in the top of the cart and forgot to put the food in the bottom of her cart on the belt. I'm mad FOR her. We all get distracted and I know she shouldn't be on the phone. But really? I am often scatterbrained! If that happened to me I'd be very angry.

So this amateur store detective said that he didn't believe her because she wasn't crying. REALLY? If you make a mistake in the store you better be crying?!

Has anything like this happened to you?

Well ps... I did go ahead and run the moms name through our states casenet. She has no priors LOL. I didn't think she would. BUT....Thanks to those of you that said I should check people out...I ran another parent through...the father of the kids I wrote about yesterday...that I am NOT taking back... That man has a prior wrongful death on his record and many protection orders against him! YIKES. I'm glad that I did not take her back!

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Cheryl...hon...this mom has not done anything to be a thorn in my side. I'm not talking about the lady that wanted to come back last night at all and no I am NOT taking her back. In fact, I don't have any parents giving me fits right now. This mom pays me a month in advance, comes and goes on time and has been with me a few months now. The only problem we've ever had is her car freshener made me sick and she took it out of her car. She's been nothing but good to me.

One of my moms works at dispatch. She can check it out for me in the morning. But I am inclined to believe her. She told me that they told her they were going to do pictures and finger prints. But she said after they left her sitting there for awhile, they handed her a ticket with a court date and told her she could go. She said they did not book her at all.

As for her being uncooperative...I can see her being angry and copping an attitude. LOL...She does seem like someone that would get mad. I think I would get mad too. I can't really fault her for that.

Trying to conceal it? Maybe. I dunno. It's a good point about checking peoples backgrounds. Is the world really coming to that?! Most of my moms don't even check my references. We get together and they feel comfortable. Very few people have ever called the references. I ask the other moms to see if they do. I'm certainly not going to ask for a background check without offering one on me LOL! I have one on file with the state. They can put my social security # in and check. But for real. This just makes me uncomfortable.

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

Ive been accused of trying to steal, but not arrested for it. My daughter was laying on a pillow in the cart that i didnt pay for and i was about to walk out the door. I can easily see myself being too distracted to put items from the bottom of the cart on top. they arent very concealed to other people but if mom is pushing the basket with a baby in it, it completely blocks the veiw of all or part of the bottom of the cart.

LOL.it was pretty obvious i was busy and it slipped my mind, but some store clerks can be heavy handed with a pathetic idea of power.

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N.J.

answers from Los Angeles on

Ha ha I just did this today. Mind you I had my two kids with me (3.5 & 2) and am 16 weeks preggo so mama brain has been an issue this last week. But I put a box of diapers on the bottom of the cart and totally forgot about it. Paid for the rest of my cart and walked right out.

Had the kids in the carseats and started unloading the cart and realized I never paid for the diapers. I thought for a minute about just going with it. No one tracked me down or came after me. But figured this is not how I was raised and want my kids to be raised knowing whats right or wrong too. So I unbuckled them out of there seats put them back in the cart and headed back to the store and paid for the diapers.

Scary thing is no one even noticed, makes me wonder how many people actually really do forget. and then on top of that how many truly do this on purpose....Honestly sounds like to me she just forgot, but that's coming from someone who just did the exact same thing....

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

Edit: Thought for sure this was the W. who left her kid with you overnight. Thanks for the clarification. Glad to hear you have a client that pays in advance!!! :)

I forgot to pay for the soda under my cart - I noticed, went back into the store and paid for it.

This mom has been a thorn in your side for a while now. You keep accepting her excuses and you keep allowing her to take advantage of you. This might not have been the first time she "made the mistake"...

While the child/ren might be better off in your care - you don't need the drama. Have her find another care giver and be done with her.

Good luck!!

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☆.A.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Hey, for all we know, this woman could "forget" to pay for items twice per week!

But, no, it's never happened to me. Especially if my child is NOT with me. He could disorient the best among us!

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A.C.

answers from Savannah on

Hm. I am inclined to think this isn't true either.....remember it was just last week that the "big news" was the story that Dawn B mentioned. So....I dunno, but it could be the "inspiration" for an excuse. The grocery clerk should have SOME responsibility in seeing groceries in a cart. Especially when handing over the bagged items. POSSIBLE, but sounds sketchy to me...but I wasn't there so I can't say anything for sure.
However, when I'm mad or in a situation, I DO NOT cry. I cry in the shower once all is safe and well again. So that is stupid. What, she's a girl so she needs to turn on the waterworks?

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V.W.

answers from Jacksonville on

I accidentally missed a piece of fruit that was in the top small area (behind where my purse was). I didn't notice it until I was finished putting my groceries in my car and picked up my purse.

But did they arrest me? Umm wellll no. They didn't. (I didn't keep the orange, either).

I tend to agree with the others, you aren't getting the straight story.
I have come closer to forgetting to get something from the bottom of the cart when loading the stuff into my car (a multipack of toilet tissue or paper towels, or a bag of charcoal or dog food).... but I usually load those items on the belt first and if I forgot them, I'm sure the bagboys would notice...

Can't say I've ever forgotten to pay for the items on the bottom of my cart.
There ARE however, a lot of stories in the news on a fairly regular basis (not the TV news, but the crime report in the newspaper) where people have secreted packs of meat in their clothing and left without paying...

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C.W.

answers from Lynchburg on

Funnily enough...

when I have 'forgotten' things...

have been when the baggers have 'bagged' my stuff...and THEY have forgotten the dog food OR case of soda in the original cart...all scanned 'in' mind you...

AND...I have gone back EACH time...receipt in hand...and gotten 'my' goods...

Could be it 'works' the other way too...

Best luck!
michele/cat

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T.F.

answers from San Francisco on

I've mystery shopped in CA and the impression I have is it's the clerks responsibility to check the bottom rack. A coup of the mystery shops was to put something in the bottom rack of the cart to see if the clerk caught it and if you got out you were supposed to take it back and let customer service at the store know about it then pay or return it. Now, I don't think they'd be paying $8 a shop to do something that might get you arrested........Sounds suspicious to me too... I have not forgotten to pay (accept during the mystery shop). Sadly I've left items in the bottom of the cart after loading the rest into my car.....

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R.Y.

answers from New York on

I have forgotten things in the bottom of the cart on occasion (when shopping with a toddler and a preschooler with me) and so many other moms I know have also. There was recently a story in the news about someone being arrested but it seems like so many people have done it accidentally and most of the time no one noticed.

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J.K.

answers from Sacramento on

Sorry L., I ain't buying what she's sellin'. I bet there's more to the story than she's saying.

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M.M.

answers from Tucson on

Its easy to forget stuff in your cart, just like you said she was on the phone. I forgot to put icecream that i had put in the seat of the cart next to the baby carrier. I couldnt see it unloading from the back end of the cart. The cashier was like and the ice cream. I was so confused. I told her i didnt want to eat it right now, you know like when they ask you if you want your candy bar or water out. lol I felt pretty dumb.
I've also been followed around by security at a store because i put items in the basket of my stroller.
Scary about the dad!

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D.H.

answers from Louisville on

Whether her story is true or not, I don't know!
However, I will mention that a lady in town got SHOT by a constable (why a metro city needs them is beyond me - but he's a wannabe cop) and he states that WalMart security (who he sometimes works for) told him she was shoplifting. He ran after her, no one knows if he identified himself, she jumps in vehicle and does run over his foot (presume as in backing out of spot) - and he fires at her!?!? Hit her arm and face! Last I heard, she was not charged or arrested, but needless to say, atty's are involved! (google WalMart, Whitlock, Louisville and you'll probably find stories)

really funny on this is that both the wanna-be and the lady have rap sheets!

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C.C.

answers from Houston on

I'm not so sure I would fall for that.

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