Has Your Little Guy Ever Done This?

Updated on August 10, 2010
M.!. asks from Boulder, CO
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I have a 4 year old little boy and in the past 2 months I have caught him peeing in his room. The first time he said it was an accident, which I thought was odd b/c he was potty trained at 2 years of age and we never had accidents or issues. Once he was trained he never went back. But, the 1st time around I brushed it off and thought of well, I guess it could happen. Well, last night I went up to put him to bed and his carpet felt like when you leave a damp towel on the carpet it kind of just enough to notice something is different with the carpet but it isn't like soaking wet or anything. So, I asked him why his carpet was wet. For the 1st 5 mins him and his sister went through every tall tale out there and both were sent to their rooms for telling stories. After a few mins I went back to his room to talk with him and see what is going on. He finally said he peed on the carpet. I went through the usual questions of why and so forth and then I thought he had just had another accident. I asked where his soiled undies were and he said he didn't have any. Now, I was totally confused and he told me he just decided to pull down his pants and just to pee?? Really?? I was totally shocked. The carpet didn't feel like he totally used the carpet as his bathroom it just felt slightly damp and more dribble marks than full on letting go of his bladder. But, I don't understand why he would think that is ok? I tried asking him but you know how kids are when they are in trouble... always answering with I don't know... So I told him that today we would clean his room out and that he will not have any toys in his room (he only has his "tools" and construction stuff up there nothing else and also told him he wouldn't be allowed in his room alone for at least a week. Other than that, how do I handle this. Do you think this was just a 1 or 2 time thing or do think that b/c he said he did it on purpose that he really knows what he is doing and then if so, how do I make him stop? Like I said, it wasn't like I had a puddle of pee in his room it really seemed like he waited till the last minute to go to the bathroom and he just dribbled on the floor.

thanks for the advice!

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A.W.

answers from Kalamazoo on

Oh Yes, my son did the peeing in the bathroom trash can too!!! Experimental behavior, boys and their toys, seeing what they can do with it! You are doing right by restricting him from his room/toys by himself. This was most likely not an accident. It'll pass. I told my son that since I obviously couldn't trust him in the bathroom alone, then either myself or his dad would have to accompany him each time he went. He didn't like that one bit and never did it again. Took about 3 times of me finding a wet trash can to relize what was going on. Thankfully, my son is not a good liar!

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C.J.

answers from Dallas on

My 3yo did this a couple of times at home. He was so sneaky that the dampness was not found immediately and it, too, felt like a damp towel. We did all the reminding of potty, not floor, but a week later he wipped it out at my MIL house and peed in their formal dining room. She saw it, stopped him and took him to the bathroom. When she told me (I was on the front porch) I went in and there he was standing at the toilet crying. His feelings were hurt because he loves his ya-ya so much (me too!) and didn't want to disapoint her.
he & I had a little talk about it again and this emotional impact was enough to stop the random peeing.
All that to say, my little guy was pushing boundries and seeing what he could get away with. the "is this cute or is this naughty" test. Your guy might be doing something similar. I think your follow through of decreased independence and removal of toys should resonate with him on a personal level to help curb the actions.I have also found that a discussion, when child is not directly in-trouble, about reward/consequences/events/actions gets me a lot more information on the topic at hand.:)

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L.A.

answers from Minneapolis on

My son has also done this. He just peed in his room for no reason 2 times, that I know of. I made him clean it up, and that stopped the behavior. I just think it was an experimental boy thing. One of the times I think he was too busy playing. The other was not, he thought it would be funny to pee behind his bed. Boys do things that make you wonder about them every once in awhile :-)

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J.S.

answers from Phoenix on

I agree with the other response. My son is 3 1/2 and started peeing outside because he wanted to "be like the dogs". I think sometimes they just explore and think something is a good idea and try it out. Sometimes they are testing to see what will happen or if there's a punishment (like just pushing buttons). Sometimes it's the way they exert control over their little life if there's anxiety from change (school, new swim lessons, sick sibling, etc.). I wouldn't be too lock down on him unless he continues and is just defiant. I think your response was appropriate. Continue trusting him (observing what he does on his own). If it continues, I would up the discipline until he responds. My son was eating sticks forever and no discipline was working- he was only 2 and only did it when his dad was out of town... did I mention that we just had a baby at the time? Hello! Obviously trying to get attention. He finally outgrew it and thankfully didn't choke. Good luck!

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M.S.

answers from Chicago on

My son peed a few times in the garbage can in the bathroom. I think he was just seeing what would happen. He got over it pretty quickly, I think he did it maybe 4 times. We just kept saying it's not acceptable, it's smelly etc... Good luck!

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A.B.

answers from New York on

My son did this a couple of times too. I also thought it was experimental. Once in his toy box, yes disgusting and the bathroom trash can and his carpet in his bedroom. Everytime I asked why, he said he was too late getting to the bathroom. I said well you peed in the bathroom trash can next to the toilet he said he had to go quick and didn't have to raise the seat to do it, really?? It all stopped after those few times. I really just think it's curiousity of the "what if" persuasion.

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K.H.

answers from Washington DC on

My son has not done this on purpose , obviously there has been accidents , has anything changed recently? Just started school , house move anything out of the ordinary? That's the only thing I can maybe pin it on , a way of getting attention , kids do strange things sometimes , I am not saying something bad has happened , just that something that has upset him maybe and this is how he is dealing with it.

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