C.R.
I deal with some of the same issues from my dad/parents both. I have an 11 yr old and 7 yr old both boys. My parents both show more favoritism toward my 11 year old. This is because they say that I show favoritism to the youngest. I disagree. My oldest makes mistakes from time to time and gets in trouble for them because they are things that he is old enough to know better before doing. My youngest could do the same thing but not get in as much trouble because he hasn't learned yet (at least the first time it happens). Anyway, my dad is a lot harder the my youngest and can be quite mean at times and it seems more so this happens in front of me as if to prove a point. There are two issues here i think. Number one, you are the parent which is something that I have had to explain to mine. Thanks mom and dad, but I am the parent and I will discipline my children. If they are doing something wrong, please point it out to me so I can take care of it, and if you don't like how I've handled it, I'm sorry, but I am the parent now...not you. I have actually had this conversation with my parents. It has been somewhat better since then. Also, you moust speak up. It will only continue if you don't speak up and you want to do this before you blow up. I know this also because there have been a couple of explosive moments between me and my parents over such issues. You need to draw the boundries so you're dad knows what you thinks is an isn't appropriate. I'm no expert my any means and have trouble with confrontation, especially with my parents, but I'm definetly getting better and you will probably feel better after you have a conversation with them. Good Luck. :-)