My grandma died about 2 years ago. She did have to go to a nursing home because she had a stoke and was unable to move half her body. She was a very tall and big woman and I wasnt able to lift her on my own. But I have worked as CNA in many facilities of all kinds. Hospitals, nursing homes, and retirement homes, etc. Retirement homes for seniors are great if she is able to somewhat do things herself. She wouldnt have to cook her own meals, or clean her room, and some place provide laundry service as well, as well as social activities during the day. But they can come and go as they please, they are not told what to do, or when to do it. It's like living in a very pampered hotel. Working in one, I discovered that if my family member was able to live in one that I would feel good about it, because it gives them a since of independence, but no one is over burdened either. It benefits both sides. Nursing homes are for people that are unable to care for themselves at all. And I am not a fan of them either. But it sounds like she can do a lot for herself, and might like having a life of her own again. Just a thought.