Good Sleeper in Crib Awful Since Transitioning

Updated on August 12, 2011
S.S. asks from Staunton, VA
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My daughter used to be a wonderful sleeper in her crib. She started showing interest in sleeping in a big girl bed by taking naps in my bed. So I thought she was ready, we transitioned her crib into a toddler bed. Ever since she has been a mess. She screams and cries at bed time (never before) and takes awhile to fall asleep. we have moved her mattress to the floor that didn't work so now she is sleeping on the floor. Her wish, not mine. She wants me to sleep with her or sleep in my bed which I am not giving into. Not sure if I should make her bed a crib again. We are going on vacation and I need her to sleep in a bed since the pack and play is too small. Any experience with kid being a great sleeper to a nightmare. Oh and she has been waking at night crying too. Any advice I would love!

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So What Happened?

Thanks for all the advice. Our summer has been crazy, we are in the process of moving. So we have been in temp housing and back and forth places. I decided after nap to ask her (she is VERY verbal) what she wanted. She helped me put the crib back together. A little fight going to bed but MUCH MUCH happier after leaving her. She didn't cry at all. I did leave the door cracked, which I never do. Not sure if nightmares are causing some stress. I think I will hold off on the bed until after we are settled in. I think she likes the crib for security. We shall see heading on vaca with family on Sat. Hoping her older cousins will comfort her since they will be sharing a room. I am bring all options-pack and play, bed rail, inflatable bed. Thanks for the advice!

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R.R.

answers from Los Angeles on

I'm not a fan of going back, and wouldn't put the crib back up but leave the bed in her room and let her sleep on the floor. At some point she will get more comfortable with the idea. Buy her books about moving from a crib to a bed:
http://www.amazon.com/Big-Enough-Bed-Sesame-Street/dp/037...
http://www.amazon.com/Your-Own-Big-Rita-Bergstein/dp/0670...
http://www.amazon.com/How-Will-Ever-Sleep-This/dp/1402743...
http://www.amazon.com/Time-Sleep-Transition-Times-Books/d...

Develop a relaxing bedtime routine for her with bath, rubdown with relaxing nighttime lotion, stories, etc. Darken the room, dim the lights, use a fan for white noise, speak in quiet voices after dinner and slow things down for her, no TV or roughhousing.

Check out some books for you to read on sleep solutions for toddlers.
http://anndouglas.typepad.com/sleepsolutions/sleep_book_r... ~
Sleep Solution Book reviews

And get a her mat like the type they use in preschool for her to sleep on when you vacation and at home, kids can use these through kindergarten, my guy has one for trips away from home:
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?sku=17307037&...
http://www.potterybarnkids.com/products/animal-nap-mats/
http://www.littlepeoplescove.com/nap-mats-and-sleep-mats....

Hope this helps, God bless.

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E.S.

answers from Jacksonville on

We just transitioned my 2.5 year old son last week, so I am certainly not an expert. We moved my son to a new room so we can leave the nursery for the new baby. We started doing the night time routine in the new room and would put him in the new bed. When he would climb out of the new bed, we would put him back a few times. Then we would just put him in the crib. After 3 nights he no longer got out of the bed. The way his new bed is, it's a lot darker, so we added an extra night light too. That may help.

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S.M.

answers from Washington DC on

This happened to my girls too. So, I used a push-pull method. That is, I tried my best to help them feel safe and secure at bedtime, but also tried to set and enforce limits. I printed out a routine of our bedtime steps with illustrations. I made sure to get them some significant exercise during the day so they would be tired. I started using books on CD to play quietly for them at night. Now they like the light on dim when they sleep, but sometimes I feel that dark is better.
You can even try a paying method which I found helpful but I couldn't keep it up -- your daughter gets a quarter each night, and if she calls out to you, she loses it. Also I discovered that they didn't need naps anymore, and if they got a nap in the car by accident or something, bedtime was all that much more difficult.
I treated repeated calling out for me or getting out of bed as a misbehavior. "If you keep calling out for me, I will take away your stories, because I think they are keeping you awake." This got pretty good results, because she didn't want her stories taken away. "If you get out of bed, I will take your pillow for just a second, because it doesn't seem that you want it, and it really is SO cozy and I think it will make me feel so nice and sleepy." I had to be careful to take things away only for a tiny bit of time because at that age they can upset enough to make it harder for them to go to sleep. Good luck!

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R.P.

answers from Cleveland on

i wouldnt of transistioned her outa the bed until she was climbing out personally. my daughter is 2.5 and we just got her a new bed and its a crib that will go into a toddler bed when she is ready not before. I think that if they nap out of their crib thats fine but at night they should be in their crib until they tell you and show you that they do not want to be in their crib

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