Good mom/Failure Mom

Good Mom
-I wrestle...hard! I love to flip and twirl my boys, and they love to wrestle with mama.
-I sing. I sang my boys to sleep until they were 5, they loved it!
-I am taking care of myself and trying to be healthier. A healthier mom means that I will be around longer to take care of my children.
-I love them and tell them EVERY SINGLE DAY that I love them and how special and precious they are to me.
-I love their dad. We are good together and my husband and I work hard at our marriage.
-I do not have goals for my children. I want THEM to have goals and then I will be behind them, supporting, cheering, and applauding when they reach their goal.
-I laugh, I play games, I read to them, I do all the other "good mom" things.

Bad Mom
-I hate doing homework with my second grader. It makes me want to pull my eyebrows out one by one. We both suffer. it's not pretty.
-My second son is giving me a run for my money with his sassyness. I lose my patience with him.
-I feel bad that I REALLY wanted another boy for my third child and I wasn't thrilled when we found out she was a girl. I am thrilled NOW, but I wasn't when I was pregnant.
-I yell, curse, and lose it. But, I am human. I apologize to my kids when it happens, and thankfully it doesn't happen very often! :)
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Here was the most recent failure mom (I'm totally blaming pregnancy hormones):

Mom lost it when she discovered the 2 year old (probably with the help of the 4 year old) ate her dark chocolate---the only real sweet I'm allowing myself to eat right now...Yeah, not the finest moment!

But really, I agree with the previous lady about lists. It's hard to be objective sometimes, especially in giving yourself credit for all the good things you do. It's better to face things one day at a time and try to be your best self each day. (As long as the chocolate is in a safe hiding place.)

I think that would really depend on the child and the mom!

What makes me a good mom is that I speak to my children as if they're adults. As such, they are able to hold a conversation with an adult.

My Mommy Fail is that I can tend to be short tempered with them, especially when I come home from work and they're fighting with each other.

Hey all you loving moms! I had to jump in on this one. I have a 23 yr old and a 6 yr old so I've already raised one. I can tell you that making lists and comparing only brought me more pain and more competitiveness ( as mom's we do it all the time compare ourselves to other moms). We all beat ourselves up quietly and subconsciously feel we need to be better mom's.. It is the age of supermom! From my experience... I had to come to a place of just being a Mom and not gauging myself as good here and bad here. Everyone does the best they can. I'm so into personal growth and I work on myself all the time. But, also had to come to a place of self acceptance and not needing to fix myself or be a "perfect mom". The super woman persona is definitely a driving force with women today. It is ok to accept your less than perfect traits and still be a "Good Mom" all the time. How can I be a good mom when I'm losing my patience with my kids... well b/c I love them ..........make a list of how even when I'm a "bad mom" I'm really a "good mom". Give yourself a break and take a deep breathe and love the mom that you are and try not to push yourself into the place of Good or Bad... for me I'm just a Mom and I don't have to qualify it..... and when the guilt comes around .... I let it pass by. It isn't a productive thing. I make adjustments all along the way... and yes we are all human and that makes us perfectly imperfect! Blessings