"Going Through a Divorce; Need Advice"

I feel your pain - I have been there as well. I got to the point to where I had to kick my daughters father out when she was about the same age as your child.
If you are okay with your babys father picking up your child from daycare on Friday and then dropping the baby off again on Monday morning - whenever you agree the temporary vistation will be - prior to the courts setting it up.

The standard visitation in Texas is typically the 1st, 3rd and 5th weekend plus every thursday from 6-8 usually.

for now I would mention the weekend arrangement and see if that would work for hte both of you - if you are agreeable to it.

Good luck and I am here if you need to talk.

Maybe once you get to the point of letting the hurt go - the lines of communication will open again between you two and your son will see the separation was for the best - if he ever questions it at all.

NEVER speak ill of yous ex in front of him. Always tell your son his father loves him - if you dont have a answer you feel would otherwise suit the situation without harming their relationship or yours with your son. Eventually if things go south with your son and your ex (which I hope they do not) let your son form his own opinion.

My daughter is almost 6 - her father doesnt pay child support and doesnt visit except for when it suits his needs. I allow her to make the decision of when she wants to see him and when she doesnt on those attempts. I do not discuss the child support with her at all. When she asks why he doesnt come around I simply say he is busy. One day she will understand that other things were more important to him - like his beer or his friends or whatever it was that kept him away and whatever excuse he uses for the day. Kids are smarter that we give them credit for at times. Just give your son all the love and support you can.

I am sorry for what you're going through. We have a 'go between' who passes our son between us so that we do not have to see one another. Other discussions are all emails, for documentation purposes. We write down everything as far as eating times, wet and bm diapers, anything else we feel relevant. You might also think of having the pick up for your son at a public location instead of your home. That is one thing I wish I had done differently.

If you have questions about details, I'd be happy to share those with you. Good luck!

Your child comes first so unfortunately you have to see you ex sometimes. i understand your feeling of not wanting to see him but you just have to deal with the small amounts and move on with your life in this time that he isn't around. When you son is older you will only need to discuss important issues with the ex as your son will be able to run from one car to the other at exchange time. for now and for your son you have to put on that brave face and be respectful. and never bad mouth your ex to your son. he will always be the child's father. I wish you all the strength you need. You CAN do this, it will be hard but remember your sons love will pull you through :) get the court to set up a visitation schedule if you cant figure one out yourself that way he isn't showing up at random times and you and your son can get your lives onto your own schedule

T.,
I'm sorry you are going through this. My niece went through a similar situation and I can offer you this advice: We all need to deal with people that we would rather not have to deal with. A nosy neighbor, a boss, a nasty store clerk, etc. Accept that fact. You do not need to be "friends" with your ex, but think of it this way...wouldn't you want to hear any and all information as it relates to your son when he is in the care of his dad? My niece and her ex now have a pretty amicable relationship as far as their son is concerned. She has been able to move from anger, to acceptance, to trust and communication. I know this is all easier said than done. Anger and resentment is not going to make anything better. You are going to be tied to this man for at least 18 more years as your son grows. After all the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. Once you accept the situation for what it is and decide that an open line of communication is best for your son, you will be better off. Be content to life your life, keep your son's dad in his life and be open and honest. It's really all you can do. Good luck to you as you move forward with your life.

The best thing for you to do is have a go between how can talk to him for you and they can watch the baby so that he can come see his son without you having to see him to.