Godparents??? - Walnut,CA

It would not be awkward. My cousin is Godmother to my 2nd and 4th children.

I wanted to add...are you clear on what a Godparent is? You made no mention of baptism or christening. This is when a Godparent is named. A Godparent is someone who is very familiar with the spiritual beliefs of the parents, and shares in those beliefs and values. The Godparents should be someone whom you trust will instill the same religious values, morals, and beliefs that you will. They are meant to be a spiritual mentor and confidant.

I agree with Lynn, the point of a Godparent is to raise your children in your faith. If you are looking for someone to adopt your kids in case something happens to you then you need to make a will.

If you want your sis in law to be more involved perhaps you should have spoken to her before you choose her. I don't see anything wrong with what your sis in law is doing, it isn't her job to be around your child as you seem to expect.

Godparents are intended to help raise a child in your religious beliefs. Many families use the term "godparents" interchangably with who they intend to be their child's guardians if something should happen to the parents. Either way, you should be happy with who you choose. If you are looking for true godparents for your children then your brother is not too young. He may not be too young for the alternative meaning but that depends on him. Yes you can name your sister again.

By the way, just having godparents named does not mean they would be the person to raise your children if something happens to you. Being a godparent does not give them any legal rights to do so. This also means that your sister could be that person for all of your children if you wanted but you need to have that done legally.

Godparents these days is just ceremonial. There's no legal aspect to it. So if you want your sister to be the godparent, go for it! And if the other one isn't doing what you had requested, since there's no rule on what should be done, then have your sister take the place as godparent for your other child as well! You could do something for him after the baptism of the new baby, since everyone will be there anyway. There's no rules at all. Do what you want!

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I would choose your brother. He is an adult and isn't going to be 18 forever:)I bet he would be honored.Good luck!

It was always my understanding that the Godparents where the ones you wanted to raise the children should anything happen to you, So I would think that you would want all 3 to have the same godparents since i am sure you would want them to be kept together.

Godparents can be whoever you want them to be. but keep in mind that there is no written rule what a godparent is obligated to do! if they choose to call and see their godchild everyday that is what THEY choose to do. my son's godmother deals with him when she feels like it. and i cannot blame her for that. she is single and has no children. heck she doesn't even like kids but she loves my son. she spoils him when she feels like it. i know she loves him and when ever i have trully been in a bind she has helped me or babysat for him or she will come get him and take him out( movies, circus, car rides, out to eat etc.). and i know if something were to happen to me she may not take custody of him but she would always help my mother with him and make sure my memory said alive with him. so don't just assume that your SIL has to be a "second mother" because she doesn't.

No not at all I have a friend who choose her cousin to be the godmother to all three of her children. I too have your issue the godmother we choose for our son is terriable she never calls and she is never around so now that we're expecting baby #2 I don't want to make the same mistake. Good Luck to you and it's very awsome that you have such a great sister and godmother for your child.

Although my mother has 3 brothers and 4 sisters, she chose 1 of her sisters to be the Godmother to 3 of her 5 kids, and for exactly the same reason. She was and has always been an awesome Godmother for me, and I am so happy that my parents chose her. I have shared a special bond with her, and although I am close with 2 of my other aunts as well, nothing compares to what she has done for me during my life. My little brothers have the same Godmother and they feel the same way.

We did the same thing that you did, my SIL for #1 and my sis for #2. If we have another, I will probably ask my sis again, as SIL moved 1500 miles away, has her own twins who keep her very busy, and rarely calls us. My sis is 30 miles away and my kids see her at least once a month and talk to her about weekly.

I have a large family and for my son I choose my mom and real dad. We now have a daughter and are having the same decision to make. My mom and STEP dad are way more involved than my REAL dad...drives me crazy! so, my husband and i talked about it and both agreed that we are having my mom and STEP dad as her godparents. So, I think you should pick someone who IS involved, a POSITIVE influence, Someone who will take care of them VERY well if something were to happen to you and hubby. Yes, you can have her be Godparents again. Do what you feel is right!

I don't think it would be awkward to ask your sister to be this new babies godmother. I mean if your happy with what she is doing then by all means, why not. As far as your 18 year old brother, that would be alright too. Just what ever makes you and your husband happy. Sorry to hear the sister in law is missing out on a wonderful experience, and also your son missing out on having an awesome godmother. Good Luck
S.