M.K.
An adjustable lancing device, like the one mentioned by the previous poster, is an absolute necessity. I recommend the Accu-Chek Multiclix Lancet Device. This is the one that always gets the best reviews.
Instead of poking the front pad of her finger (which is so tender and can get sore!), use the side of her finger.
One last thought...after you have applied the blood to the test strip, do not wipe any excess blood on her finger with the alcohol swab -- it will just keep bleeding. Use a clean tissue instead.
My best wishes.