Getting Thru the Terrible Twos...

Updated on August 09, 2007
G.F. asks from Hobbs, NM
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My two year old son is really bad in talking back and telling me no and pointing a finger at me and never listening just laughing at me. Is this terrible twos, it just started about a couple months ago and seems to be getting worse. When he does something wrong i try to tell him why not to do it. But two seconds later..we go thru it all again. Am I just impatient with him? What is the best way to get thru the twos? or does it get worse? Flustrated mother!

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L.B.

answers from San Antonio on

I would go pick up a copy of Love and Logic. I'm a huge fan of it! Everytime my son was disrespectful or disobeyed I said the oh-oh song then I would sweep him up (lovingly) and put him in his room. After only a few months I can now just say oh-oh and he will either walk himself to his room or immediately say sorry and ask if he has to go to his room.

oh-oh song "Oh-Oh, so sad, looks like someone needs a little bedroom time for being disrespectful to mommy. you stay in there until your sweet again"

This really does work - I'm not a perfect mom but I've learned to put up those boundries that he needs and I have so much more fun with him. And our twos and threes have not been terrible at all.

you can go to www.loveandlogic.com to learn more or you can email me and we'll get together. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself and my child.

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C.R.

answers from San Antonio on

Well i have no idea if its just the terrible twos or just them being boys because my son is just about to turn two and he is doing the same thing i am also a stay at home mom and my husband nad i are trying for baby number 2 but we would like to get him under control before we bring a new baby in the home. So please let me know if you get any good advice and i will let you know if i get any good advice you can just email me at ____@____.com hope i will find a answer soon.

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J.M.

answers from Corpus Christi on

Pull at the sides of your mouth. If you do it a little too hard, it DOES hurt, and when you are doing it on someone else, you could end up hurting them pretty easily.

I use regular time-out on my youngest son - he recently turned 3 - and it works just fine. I also use a version of it on my teenager - who is 15 - and it works on him, too. I am 5'1 and about 100 pounds. My 15 year old is 6'3 and 190 pounds. Sometimes he acts up, and needs discipline. Believe me, I am very glad that my method of punishment does not rely on my being physically larger or stronger than he is. Time-Out is effective and can be used from the time your baby is very young until they leave home to go to college. Talk about consistency!

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L.W.

answers from Austin on

My son was the same, until we came up with mouth timeout. Make him open his mouth, and put a finger on either side of his cheek forcing him into a fish face. You only have to do it about 30 seconds, and they'll get the hint. It doesn't hurt unless he tries to bite you. That'll only happen once or twice. If he hits, make it hands timeout. Hold his hands together like he was in "cuffs" this one takes a minute or two to sink in. I hope these suggestions help, and don't EVER give in to what you're fighting against. He'll remember. Best of luck.

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V.B.

answers from San Antonio on

I am not sure if its the terriable two's or just little something kids go through. My soon is 4 and a half....he started talking at 3& 1/2 really well and that's when it started and finished last month for the most part. He would tell me NO before even hearing what I said or even before he really processed anything soooo frustrating Morgan please go wash your hands...NO....the thing is to stay strong,maybe try time out? for short times....be consitant and just patient eventually it should stop.

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D.S.

answers from San Antonio on

I agree with the other poster that he is testing his boundaries. You need to set those boundaries/consequences. Whatever method of discipline you decide to use just be consistent with it.
Just don't allow him to talk back or be disrespectful to you especially if you don't want him to be disrespectful in the teen years.
on a side note: I have 3 boys and my oldest 2 are 22 months apart just like yours. I can remember right around the time my 2nd one was born was when my firstborn really started testing his boundaries.

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N.W.

answers from Odessa on

I have a 2.5 yr old too. Mine will seem to behave better if I make sure to really stop and pay attention when he gets a bit ornery. It isn't always easy with the other kids around, but they have a hard time communication and may need something. Other times they are testing boundaries. He is most likely completely normal and you will figure it out. You are welcome to borrow my mantras... I am the adult here, and at least I don't have thirteen kids. My great-grandmother did and I find that amazing....LOL.

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C.H.

answers from Amarillo on

Children push everyday to see where the boundies are, they want to know what will happen if I do this or this. You need to laydown the law, and get him strait on what will happen if he does something. My child has tried to bumrush me or yell at me so on and so on. When he does this he is sent to his room he doesnt like this because then he is out of the game and doesnt get to perticipate in whats going on. Some people use time out or stand in a corner, whatever it is you have to let him know that his behavoir is is not exceptable.

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