Hi! I realize I'm late to the party, but I couldn't help but chip in, since I didn't see anyone else say it...
Adiri (http://www.adiri.com) makes a "breast bottle" that is made of silicon (? I think). When it has fluid in it, it really imitates the look and feel of a breast. We had a few for our daughter (actually, the older model that was short and breast-shaped) and while she wouldn't take them (she took to the Playtex Vent-Aire system), I was really amazed by the breast look/feel. My daughter only breast-fed for 3 months and then she flipped to formula, which was fine because I couldn't seem to pump enough to complete feedings, and I was going back to work.
Anyway, I passed them on to a friend who was transitioning off the breast and her daughter was having trouble switching to the bottle. This was the only one her baby would take.
In any case, I'm in agreement that this is a personal choice and shouldn't be judged by others. They're not living in your home and experiencing what you and your husband are, so they don't get to vote. What works for you is what's best for you. Good Luck!