write a nice thank you each time, take the gift graciously, and just let it go... smile, tell her she is right, let her feel that she is doing a wonderful thing for your family... each and every time bite your lip and do this.
And each and every time you get something from her put that money in an account. Some day she will be old and need help. Think of this as her fund for HER future so that when she is old and in a nursing home you will be able to take care of it for her, with her own money.
And if she ends up never needing a home then that will be at least 20 yrs in the future and you can treat her to a nice vacation or something. Again, using her own money.
And as a little tiny maybe - is there any chance all of this is because she is really the one who gave birth to your husband? It was common for an oops to be raised as a sibling instead of your own and never tell the baby. That could explain a LOT of this, couldn't it? Her GUILT is just that, guilt. Looking at it that way may also help you be gracious and accept it.
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write a nice thank you each time, take the gift graciously, and just let it go... smile, tell her she is right, let her feel that she is doing a wonderful thing for your family... each and every time bite your lip and do this.
And each and every time you get something from her put that money in an account. Some day she will be old and need help. Think of this as her fund for HER future so that when she is old and in a nursing home you will be able to take care of it for her, with her own money.
And if she ends up never needing a home then that will be at least 20 yrs in the future and you can treat her to a nice vacation or something. Again, using her own money.
And as a little tiny maybe - is there any chance all of this is because she is really the one who gave birth to your husband? It was common for an oops to be raised as a sibling instead of your own and never tell the baby. That could explain a LOT of this, couldn't it? Her GUILT is just that, guilt. Looking at it that way may also help you be gracious and accept it.