Friends and Texting

I don't do cell phones or texting, but I had a friend who was out of control with texting. We would go out to eat and she would sit at the table across from me and text. I just couldn't deal with that kind of rude.

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I'm sorry - how old are you?

2K texts per month? that's like a teenager. I have a friend, his daughter did 6K texts in one month. he took her phone away - that's 200 texts per day - if not more...

Put your phone down. Start LIVING your life...not avoiding it. Have you been checked for depression? Really. One who does menial things and avoids people? Not good.

Have suffer from boredom? You realize there is a lot to do in life instead of texting, right? Put the phone down....

So get together with her face to face. Try out the friendship in real life.

I swear, either I haven't had enough coffee or the full moon is affecting the questions on this page this morning…

Turn your phone off. 2000 texts? Or $2000 in texting charges. Either way, turn it off. Throw it away. Change your plan to disable texting. Do whatever you need to do, but no, I couldn't write 2000 texts if I tried.

Believe me, two thousand dollars a month is too much. Consider yourself addicted. The solution? Go cold turkey. Cancel your texting abilities. In fact, move away from the phone. Quickly or slowly, move away from it and stay away.

It's like being addicted to video games or television shows. They serve as a cheap escape, a fantasy world. When you turn away from such things, you will feel that there's a huge void in your life - but eventually that void fills up with something much, much better in the real world.

Don't carry your phone around with you. If that doesn't work, ask someone else to be in charge of your phone, use the phone only when you are called about something important, and REQUEST the phone from that person when you really need to use it. You'll hate doing that, but it will help.

Plan your time. When you text, you're not doing something else. Make deliberate use of every moment, even if it's (gulp) ironing or cleaning the bathroom. When you need to take a break, read a book.

Tell your friend you're doing this and you won't be communicating with her every day. If she tries to talk you out of doing it, drop her as a friend. She is acting in her interests, not yours.

You are not alone. There are many people around you. Notice them. Look at them as if you were just arrived from Mars and had never seen human beings before. Don't expect any "fulfillment" from them, but get interested in them. There's more to you as a person than you may think right now. People will like to know you when you're really interested in them and not thinking of you.

How in the world do you spend $2K per month on texting? You must do nothing but text all day long.

If you really feel the need to text this much, why don't you have a phone plan that allows unlimited texting? With all that extra money, you could afford counseling....

If texting is more of a priority than face to face contact and/or it is interfering with your life, you need to get a handle on it. People text all the time. But I'm not sure even my sks text 2000+ in a month.

I generally do not text just to "shoot the s**t". It's usually a question from one party, followed by an answer from the other. Then we go on with our lives. I could not spend that much time texting people. Too much to do around the house, at work, with the kids or hubby, etc.

Loneliness can bring out all kinds of things. Some lonely people over: eat, drink, shop, text, isolate, are angry and bitter, etc.

It's a disease that is rarely treated but the symptoms are very bad.

Certainly there are people out there who do the same thing, but it doesn't seem to be healthy.

I would be concerned with filling the void with a device that doesn't have personal interaction. I believe as people we need to have interaction and we are beginning to lose that with technology. Of course, some people need to talk more than others, but I think not talking person to person is not healthy.

That is why people tend to spill everything with their hair and nail technicians. It is the personal touch.

Try to give her a call once and a while or plan a day to have a cup of coffee. I know it is hard with two busy schedules, but it is important.

2000 texts just with this one lonely friend? It's definitely too much. I hope you have free messaging and not actually paying for each message.

I would definitely suggest cutting down on this... but since your question is if you are alone in this or not, sorry I don't know anyone else who texts that much!!!