Friend's Son Seems Overly Interested in Checking Out My Son's Body

Simply tell the 6yr old that it is not nice to touch or handle another person's body part or if while changing your son, have your friends son excused. That way you do not get into an issue with the parent over something that might actually be curiousity.

I would Never leave the boys Alone together. If your getting a "sickly" feeling about it - there is probably Good Reason!! I'd be more concerned for My son - than worry about her being defensive. IF she doesnt like it, then you dont have to hang out anymore. Better to be safe than sorry..... just MHO

At 6 staring is not into of itself abnormal, kids stare... boy and girls start to explore each other because they are natural "scientists", a bit on the to a precosois but not hyper sexual level. Speak despite how difficult it may be for this mom, to the mother of the child. She needs to tell her son, about private parts. Also if you catch this child touching another child, you tell this child.

FInally, if mom will not have a discussion about what it is going on, keep your kids away. Or at the very least always be present when they play!

If this were me I would tell the six year old to go to his mom or go home. Tell him its not nice to touch your child in that manner. I would tell him to keep his hands to himself. Who cares if she is defensive. Her son is probably just curious but that would bother me also.

His mom needs to school him on the body parts to relieve him of his curiosity. He probably wants to know what a bumhole is and he cant see his so he used your son for that purpose. I'd say it's normal behavior but should be addressed immediately. Have a talk with the mom, and if she doesnt mind maybe you can have that body part talk with her son if she's uncomfortable with it. And you definitely need to reprimand him about looking at your sons parts from here on out and brand it as a NO NO.

I would be very worried if it made me feel "sickly" I would tell the six year old that it isn't nice to do things like that. I know she is your friend but what is this six year old boy seeing at home? He might try to do whatever it is he see's at his house. I know she is your friend but your three year old dosn't know what the six year old is doing is wrong and is also teaching your son it's ok for this type of things to be done. I am sure curiousity also and his mother needs to speak to him on that stuff to! Another thing a parent told you about the six year old spreading his butt cheeks apart they are directing you to pay attention. Just my thoughts. Have a good day!

Not normal for a child to be pulling another child's buttcheeks apart. Looking is one thing, but touching is another and that is not okay behaviour. Do not change your son in front of him anymore and when you take your son to the bathroom, lock the door so this boy cannot come in. Do not ever let your child alone with this boy or leave at at this boy's home. I would also simply tell the child, "You need to keep your hands to yourself, it's not nice to touch or look at other people's private parts."

The other mother telling you she saw this, it must have made her uncomfortable too. My friends was molested at 3 and 4 years old, and grew up feeling sick about it, so yes, children this young can be affected by it.

Seriously keep a close watch on this child. Let the mother know what is going on. He could just be a curious kid, or he could be a victim of child molestation, or could be watching pornography with his dad. When talking to the mom, simply tell her what he did... "You child pulled my butt cheeks apart in the pool a while back, and tries to stare at my son anytime he is naked. It makes me feel uncomfortable that he would do this and I felt it important that you should know.

Five years later it's still pretty disgusting, especially the pool scene. What a non-toilet trained kid is doing in a pool is bad enough but the six year old is beyond the pale. Hope it all worked out.

children looking/starring is normal curiousity, but actually touching, no that is not, and not appropriate, take your son to a private room when changing, and at 3 years old, i wouldn't let my child in a pool even in a raft without me or an adult i trust next to or close to them/me anyways. if you feel the other mom needs to know (she may not know that he's doing this, and could be doing this to other children), approach her in a kind risk free way and nuetral environment and explain that it makes you uncomfortable for this to take place, she may get offended, but you did your part