? For Moms Who Have Kiddos in Child Care

I had to chuckle a bit when I read your posting. I don't know if you have ever whatched the TV show "Yes, Dear". They had a show don e on this exact sinario. The mother of the boy that had the attention and praise showered on, finally spoke up to the teacher. She felt guilt for her child getting all of the attention. The teacher then explained that he received more attention because he needed the attention and was having difficulty making friends. A good chance is that you son is more independent and plays better with the other children.
I would ask for a meeting with her after hours or sometime when she can really talk with you. (not at pickup or drop off, those are crazy times.) Just voice your concerns. Good luck.

Certainly address your concern...but, you want your son to be independant and not clingy to the teacher as some kids are. This will help him to grow up and get ready for school. Maybe there's a reason for the extra attention. If your son requires this as well, then let the teachers know about it. We all would like for our little ones to be praised and given S. attention, but an over abundance can sometimes be a hinderance. If it doesn't bother your son, then don't make too much of a fuss over it. If he sees you making it a big deal, then he will too and become jealous of the others.

i have worked in childcare for many years and i think you should definatly address the issue. the teacher may not realize she is favoring a particular child, or it may turn out that child is hers. you never know, but you will feel better if you say something. have a great day!!!

D. Mattern-Muck
The MOM Team
www.formyrugrats.com
"The only thing that counts is faith, expressing itself through love." Galatians 5:6

If your child goes to daycare that moves them up as they progress, I would try to find a place where they are in the same room with the same 2 teachers for the entire year, this typically works better for the children. It is very hard for change for the children and possibly the teachers. If there are children in their from the very beginning the teacher and child have probably grown fond of one another.

I think I would address this issue with the lead teacher. My guess is that the child might be one a child of someone that works there. I worked in a daycare for a couple of days awhile ago (didn't work for me). But I noticed that some of the children got more attention b/c they were children that had been there since they were first born. Or they were the directors children or children of people that worked there. My son is 2 and he is in a semi-small class and they all get the same amount of attention. However there are some little girls in the class that need more attention sometimes. I think they have seperation anxity when their moms leave. I know my son is really independent in the class and doesn't ever need to be picked up or held. But good luck. And I wouldn't say anything around the other parents.

When you bring it up, I would focus on how much time you see her spending with your son, and not on how much she is spending w/ somone else, as you may not know that child's situation. I would say "I check on the class several times a day and I never see the teacher interacting with my son. I think he would benefit from some interaction with the teacher." If she says she is unable to do so one on one w/ such a large group, or makes a similar excuse, only then would I bring it up that she finds time to spend w/ a particular child and you think she should "spread the love," a little.

It sounds like you have made up your mind to talk to them, but just fyi, in my experience w/ a particular daycare, once I spoke out about something their reaction was so out of line and defensive that I ended up moving my son to another daycare. It is a difficult decision to decide when to speak up but judging by their reaction you will proably get a good idea of their attitudes towards parents' concerns.

Good luck!

If you do not mind telling me which school you are using...i have been looking for a daycare with a "nanny cam" and i cannot find one! I had a terrible experience with a mothers dayt out program in crosby, so i really need a way to check on my baby...thanks so much