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He should have his own......he's getting old enough.......and fixing him up a super cool room, even if he doesn't think he is ready is ok............he needs his space too...........make sure you include things for him to amuse himself in while he is in there.....

Time for you to have some space alone as well...........

Have fun and let him help plan his room........glow in the dark moons and planets and such that can go on the walls and ceiling are cool too....

Take care...and good luck.

My son moved out right around his 4th birthday. He did have his own space when he was a newborn, but once we realized he was in our bed for the long haul, we made that room a playroom and he didn't have any other designated sleeping space. So part of his 4th birthday gift was converting another room into his big boy bedroom and getting him a super cool racecar bed and all that. He was just getting too big to share a (queen) bed with me and my husband, especially since he liked to sleep sideways. He wasn't all that enthusiastic, and we're still (3 months later) dealing with the midnight visits, but overall I'm glad we did it and that we waited until now.

Does he cosleep for naps too? We coslept for convenience with my oldest, but he always napped in his crib/bed.
It was a good way to let him know he did have his own space for resting and around 4 he chose to sleep in his room full time. that was three years ago. Occassionally we still get a midnight visitor:)

I started transitioning my daughter at 18 months (due to family pressure) and I regret it to this day. She was NOT ready and it was a very, very long and tiring process. She is 4 now and sleeps very, very well in her own room (she had absolutely no problem what so ever when we moved either which I just found to so shocking and amazing since I heard that children don't usually take to a move so easily). She was doing fairly well by about 3 and has really flourished since we moved to our new house this spring.

There is no reason that you can't start offering him his own room. Put a bed/mattress in the room big enough for you to lay with him. Then you can start a bed time routine that begins in his bedroom. We chose to have stories first and then we would snuggle and I would sing her to sleep. At some point in the middle of the night she would make her way back to out bed. After a while we wanted to encourage her to stay in her own room so instead of letting her crawl in bed with us we crawled in bed with her. Once she was back to sleep I (or DH, who ever had gone in with her) would come back to the big bed. Some times we would do this a couple times a night and sometimes it would only take one time. Now, she prefers her own room. If you're little one isn't ready you'll learn it pretty quickly. He may just surprise you though and take to it right away. Good luck! I hope this helps.

We are a co-sleeping family. Our "policy" is that they can stay however long they like. My kids just recently moved into their own room to share-they want to share~ But they frequently come and stay with us as well. We just made it a no pressure situation and recently my oldest said he was ready to have big boy room-so thats what we did.

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About 2 1/2 is when we start to transition. Make him his own room, and let him pick stuff out for it. Get him his own bed and start with naps. Wait a few months then start having him go to sleep in his big boy bed (unless you think he's ready sooner). We usually let ours come into our bed during the night if they wake up until about 4 years old.