I've had my rounds of depression, many many years ago, and this isn't it.
But lately (off and on, not every day), I've been feeling very fatigued, just always tired, and achy, wanting to lay down, not cook, not spend time with my husband or children. Just overall sadness that my life isn't how I had wanted it to be. Some days I dream about having another child, then I think I can't do that until I can manage and appreciate the ones I have. I just don't feel very happy or joyful and I know I have so much to be happy about.
I have a good little hobby business that is starting to slow down which makes me a little sad, and my husband just got a job after years of college and uncertainty, but there is this looming feeling that I can't shake.
I have never been a big cooker or anything, but I have so many aspirations to do crafts with my boys, teach them to read and take them on nature walks, decorate and beautify my home... I have tons of activity books and games and learning books, that just sit on a shelf.
I do nothing all day long and have no energy and the guilt of it, just makes me do less and feel worse. Some days, I just want to enroll my kids in preschool and get a full time job, just to get out and do something, but that wouldn't go over well in my home, and I know I would miss my kids and get tired of it too.
We are a very spiritual family and go to church and all of that, and I even feel my faith slipping because I don't actively engage in it anymore.
How have any of you pulled yourselves out of these slumps?
Maybe you need to spend time with girlfriends. Try meetup.com. You can find a lot of women you have things in common with. That can really help, to know you not alone with the way you feel. Then sometimes you can find your way.
I kind of felt that way and have found freind ship and comradary,(not sure how to spell that) by doing this.
I wish you well.
Lonie
I felt that way after I had my 2nd child. My husband didn't want to do anything with me and I felt unattractive. My best friend would call me up, offer to come get me, pay or whatever we were going to do and everything and I had no desire to do anything.
This sounds crazy but I started my home based business and that changed my whole world. I'm not here to push that, but merely to let you know that finding something I was interested in that engaged me with other people did the trick for me.
I, also, recommend http://www.meetup.com. You can put in anything your interested in from play groups to horseback riding to networking to whatever you can think of, and it will pull up groups around where you live. That will give you a chance to get out and do something you enjoy as well as meet new and interact with adults. If you can think of something and don't see a group for it, you can make your own for people to join!
God is good.. He'll see you through this. You sound like an awesome person and an awesome mother. Hang in there!
Take care and God bless!
M.
Pray and read your Bible, then consider that...Having someone to talk to is very helpful - find a Christian counselor so that you can spill your guts totally and completely and know that they are committed to your privacy. Find a dr. to prescribe an antidepressant if it may help. When your body is under constant stress (mental and/or physical) it uses up important chemicals that balance mood. You may just need them a few months - ask the doctor. Exercise with your kids - make it fun. Go outside for at least 15 minutes a day - sunshine may be good for you and the kids. Finally, commit to some type of volunteer work. By helping someone else (or some animals), you may find that you are renewed. It is not easy, but it gets easier after you have made yourself to do it a few times.
get some sun, maybe even tanning indoors... take your vitamins... exercise for 60 min...
Hi Lisa,
So sorry you are feeling this way.
As a personal trainer, I would definitely recommend exercise. You could just start out taking walks with the kids. You may have to force yourself at first but it will get easier.
Also, get your thyroid checked. I recommend Dr. Audrey Miklius at Dallas Endocrine Associates.
Another doctor I know will be giving a talk on Feb 11 in Dallas. The seminar is free. She will also answer questions.
There are supplements that can help also. If any of these options interest you, let me know.
I would love to help you.
Victoria
I know just how you feel. I have felt the same way, especially this time of year. I think all the other suggestions of exercise, time with friends, etc are great ideas. I know I always feel better and ready to face the day when I take a shower, put on makeup, fix my hair, etc. Volunteer to do something to help someone else. You mentioned you go to church. I'm sure they have lots of volunteer opportunities to keep you busy and keep focused on helping others. That always brings me out of a slump. Good luck to you.
