Fed up and Tired

=0) I feel ya. Sometimes you just have to laugh at it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A0ZpuA8_YYk

when I have days like that I always think about moms who are going through this...... http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/jensenbyrd

You are NOT alone in this. I am at work too, I'm the "Admin" here but I "ran the show" last week which means while I was out in the werehouse doing other peoples job, MINE did not get done.....SO i have 1 weeks of work to get done today, then the Corperate office calls me, they need a spreadsheet made, for the material we recieved in June and July, then another spreadsheet for August so far by the end of the day today. One of my drivers got pulled over by DPS he has to go down to the DPS office I had to drive around on the plant site here in 100 degree wather to find another driver who does not have a cell phone get him to go pick up the truck and finish the delivery. come back finish the speadsheets, get done with last weeks work and maybe squeeze in some lunch. GO home do laundry, make dinner. Looks like its gonna be a Margarita night tonight. LOL. but My uncle always used to tell me, "Mija, don't hate your problems, fix them one at a time. Problems let you know your alive, because the only time you don't have them, You're dead." he was a funny man. It will get better. you just need to "escape" Mine is a margarita, maybe even 2?!?!? LOL

Yup. Two days ago. I am a little ashamed to say that the day ended in a temper tantrum to rival my three year old's complete with tears and stomping of feet.

I don't think anyone has anything to make it better. Just the sun setting on the day and the beginning of a new one. That's usually the fix. But I'm rooting for you! The good news about bad days is that the sun always sets.
You can do this. One minute at a time, Girl! And I say PB & J for dinner. Or if you want to go all gourmet you can do hot dogs and mac & cheese. Yeah, hot dogs and a sunset and bad day is over!

Oh yeah....I know where you are right now. That's what take out is for! LOL Concentrate on work while you're there and do what you can--prioritize and check off the list what you can do.
Order take out, pick it up on the way home and call ahead to get the kids crack-a-lackin on the chores!
Hope tomorrow is better--after all it will be FRIDAY!

Maybe its time to do something for yourself. Plan some me time ASAP!! Get your husband or a babysitter to watch the kids and do something just for you--you know you deserve it!

Oh yeah, we all feel like that sometimes. Sometimes we feel like that a lot!

I can suggest a couple of things: have your boss prioritize things in the order in which they need to be done, and either agree to give up on the less critical or delegate them to someone else. For chores, if the kids haven't done them, then without arguing take away their privileges. Make it clear up front that TV or computer or whatever are privileges that can be earned, and that they can earn a lot more by doing the work than they can by whining or complaining. Do not argue with them - you are the mom. For cooking, try engaging them in helping. Not sure of their ages but everyone can help make homemade pizzas - get safety knives so they can cut up the veggies (peppers, cherry tomatoes, whatever) and buy grated cheese. They can put on the pepperoni or slice up some defrosted turkey meatballs. I buy whole wheat pizza dough at the grocery store and then freeze it if need be - it defrosts during the day while you're at work. Use one weekend day as a family cooking day - make double portions of something and then eat it twice during the week. Kids can put BBQ sauce on chicken to bake, and then you eat it one night and put the leftovers, sliced up, into tacos or tortilla wraps. While the rice is cooking, the kids and the adults can assemble the wraps. Kids can put out baby carrots and ranch dressing dip. Get a kid cookbook or a 5-ingredients-or-less cookbook from the library and figure out some favorites. If they eat lasagna, make 2 on the weekend and freeze one for the following week. A big bunch of cooked up hamburger can be used for American chop suey (add elbow mac and maybe onions & tomatoes) and for tacos and for spaghetti sauce and even for pizza.

The other thing is to get some agreement from any other adults in the house - everyone parents the same way or nothing gets done! Do you have a husband or significant other? You cannot be the bad guy all the time. It is the kids' choice whether they watch TV or not - not your choice. You give them the rules, and they decide whether to follow them. But there are no treats for those who don't do what's required.

The last thing is to let some stuff go. The beds maybe don't have to be made every day. Not every toy has to be picked up - maybe just thrown in a big basket in the family room so everything's not under foot. A lot of clothes can be worn more than once before laundering. Little kids can match socks. Older kids can fold and put away. Younger ones can set the table, older ones can clear and load the dishwasher. Everyone can have more fun if there's more agreement and less yelling or less burdening of one person. What's that expression? Many hands make light work?

Supermoms can't have it all. It's a myth someone created who wasn't doing this job! They can only have SOME of each thing - some time at work, some benefits of being at home. But nobody does it all. So don't take on everything - it's not YOUR JOB!!

Good luck!

Take out Chinese food or delivery pizza.
It's a modern miracle for got-to-make-the-supper blues.

Yes, just take a deep breath...best thing I can offer right now.

can't be super mom all the time, and yes, my daughter is 7 and there's times not a day goes by i just want to "walk out"

stay strong you are not alone on that boat.

I PROMISE!

Yes I have! I do often. When I'm at work, I find myself trying to think of how can I fit this all in an 8 hr day? Could I maybe come in a little early or stay a little late? But I don't want to rob my family of time either. The only solution is for me to give up sleep! Whether at work or at home, I am trying to give my all, but feeling like I fall short. I have to wrk. I support my family. More power to SAHM moms, I know it's not easy at all. But I read what they say about there job being 24 hrs a day and no offense, but do they think that someone else magically comes to clean my house, do my laundry, my grocery shopping, bathe my kids, cook my dinner, run my errands while I'm selfishly working? lol No, I have to do that all in a 3 hr window. Even If that's ALL I had to do in that 3 hour window that would be a breeze. But my kids haven't seen me all day and my husband hasn't seen me all day so they are all talking over each other trying to get my undivided attention. I'm trying to give it to them, but know that I still need to get dinner on the table and baths and at least 1 load of laundry started, and I haven't checked my email in a month, and I haven't painted my toenails in 2 months, and I haven't shaved my legs in a week, and my familys coming this weekend so I need to get the house ready and this kids birthday is coming up, I haven't planned a party yet and oh I really should be teaching my son to write his name, and how am I going to find time to do all this and then in the middle of it all, my husband asks me, honey have you seen my ____. AAARRRRGGGGHHHH Find it yourself you @#%$@ whew, I feel so much better. Thank you for listening. lol

Oh yes! We have all had these days! Do yourself a favor. Plan on getting a pizza delivered to your house for supper tonight. If at all possible (don't know your schedule or kids' ages) don't go home. When you get off work go to the mall or to a movie, or to get your hair cut, or whatever sounds fun to you. Call your house a leave a message that you won't be home till late. Pizza will be there at 6, Dad's in charge.
Text your hubby that you need time to yourself tonight. Don't ask, just tell him its a need at this point. Then don't feel guilty about doing it. Tomorrow you will be a much better wife/mother/employee because you took a time out. :-)

Pick up pizza or burgers when you get home. For tonight, don't worry about what is NOT done, and focus on playing with your kids, enjoying being with them in the evening. Take your kids outside, even eat outside if it's not too hot, and leave the dishes, the chores, etc. until the weekend. Oh and pick up the stuff to make mojitos if you feel in the mood!

Every mom will agree, we've had days like this (working or stay at home), and I'm sorry you're having one. Do you have a mom or MIL who can take the kids overnight so you can get a massage and sleep? Sounds like tonight calls for pizza, a mvie for the kids, to bed for them, and you veg on the couch (or tub) with wine (or your mojito.) Look forward for tomorrow, it you can make it a better day. :-)

On a side note - Since having kids, there is no such thing as a vacation for us moms. It's a bummer. We're leaving on Vacation tomorrow and I have to pack by boys, myself, empty the refridge, get car cleaned out, and figure out dinner and bedtime (hubby has softball tonight). I should probably stop typing and get to work...... sigh.

A possibility is to see if your sitter can start staying later 2 nights/week. Maybe she can get the kids thru the bath and into their pj's for you. that way, when you come home, you can get some things done for yourself.

Oh the joys of being mom. Now why why is it you can't get everything done with a smile??? Just kidding :)

I almost asked a similiar question the other day. I'm fortunate that I get to stay home, but I feel like I am NEVER off the clock! Whats for dinner, wheres my pants, did you pack my lunch, why is there no milk, on and on. The dog even down to the goldfish are getting on my nerves lately lol! I can't walk by the fish bowl with out the little buggers swimming frantically around smacking their lips like I havent fed them in days! I can't even go to the bathroom alone, someone ALWAYS follows me!
I love my family, but yes there are days I want to run out of here screaming my head off! Take a deep breath mama, we've been there in one way or another! Hope your day gets better :)