Farewell All Employee Email

Updated on May 05, 2014
R.X. asks from Fayetteville, AR
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Have you ever quit a bad work environment and sent a tell all letter to your job? Why? Why not?

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The maid is angry that the boss uses them as his private brothel...

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L.R.

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So...the American expat staff is spending its time discussing whether she should have fought it there and thus avoided publicizing the boss's behavior? .

The expats need to blow the whistle on a boss who is vile. The fact they're more concerned about her "putting it in the news" and not about the fact this illegal and disgusting behavior goes on under their noses -- well, that says volumes about the expats themselves. If it's common knowledge that the boss sleeps with Filipino employees and "forces them to be quiet," and these American expat employees say nothing and do nothing out of fear for their jobs (and the wads of pay they're likely making as expats getting special pay rates in another country)....They're sorry representatives of America overseas.\

In a normal U.S. workplace, no, one should never send a tell-all e-mail. But I don't blame this one maid for doing so. She knew the boss likely would never give her a reference anyway, or would trash her to any future employer because she chose not to stay where she was and let him screw her -- literally. And she, not he, pays the price. This workplace is sick.

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M.M.

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#1 No No in my corporate universe.

In my world, lots of people go to work at vendors and competitors, and everyone knows each other. Burning bridges is a bad, bad idea. Not to mention, pretty immature.

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D.D.

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No and I wouldn't. An adult addresses issues as they come along instead of saving them up and spilling them out to hurt people once they can no longer be around to suffer any fall out. It's childish and stupid. Not to mention that in the electronic world stuff like that gets around and could bite you in the a$$ in the future.

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M.P.

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NO! Sending such a letter is likely to hurt the sender for many reasons. The most obvious one is that future employers are likely to hear of it.

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M.D.

answers from Washington DC on

Heck no. I never would. You never know when those people can help you in the future, or hurt you for that matter. I think the whole thing is very immature and handled incorrectly. My $0.02.

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G.B.

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I did. I enjoyed visiting with so many people I worked with so I sent a sort of general email to my group telling them I was leaving to watch my newest grand child and that I'd miss them and our fun times. To thank them for their help when I was stuck on a problem with a customer's computer, etc....

I hated the company I worked for but loved the people who were there. I still know people that I met there and I see them every week.

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J.S.

answers from Richland on

No, because I am a grown up.

Per your what happened, who cares? It won't help anything. I don't get why people don't understand it just makes things worse. Or do you mean they sent the email and it made this worse?

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A.V.

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No, because I try not to burn bridges. Usually there is still one or two people that could be useful to you down the line. I didn't blast my boss when I left my last job (though she was a big reason I left) and she helped me get freelance work. Be professional and be remembered as a professional. If there is something that really needs to be reported, contact the proper authorities.

Now, you mentioned a whole lot of countries in the follow up. That is a tough call, as I don't work for anyone from those areas or know the local laws.

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B.C.

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As bad as any work might be it's never a good idea to burn your bridges behind you.
Coming across as a disgruntled whistle blower employee - even if you were totally justified - can blow up in your face.
I've left work (not quit - I was transferred to another dept and going to work from home) and shaken the hand of a boss I DESPISED on my way out the door with a smile on my face and saying "It was great working with you! Best of luck in the future!" all the while thinking <YES! I'll never have to put up with that crazy bastard again!>.

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R.K.

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I bet everyone who answers recognizes that feeling! I sure do. In my life I have always tried to make a difference for the positive and once, it just wasn't going to happen.

But no, I never quit (but I left "for another opportunity"). And I never sent a letter, made a speech, or even shared with peers, why I left. I wouldn't have given the person in charge the satisfaction of knowing why I left, and it wouldn't have made a difference.

Edit: After your explanation, I see that my answer is completely off-the-mark. I cannot imagine what that employee experienced, and I cannot imagine judging her for how she dealt with it. The reputation of the workplace would not be my concern.

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C.O.

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ETA: Was this EX-PAT one of the Filipino maids he was forcing to keep quiet? Was he FORCING them to have sex as well?

The BOSS should have thought about "putting the workplace" in the news before he whipped willy out and started putting in places it didn't belong.

Rhonda,

If you work on an American installation overseas, and the boss is working for the U.S. the woman who left should have dealt with his supervisors.

If he is "raping" the maids (are the U.S. staff or his personal staff??) then someone needs to speak up.

The "tell all" should NOT have been done. While the boss' behavior is not acceptable - she took the cowards way out and started gossip instead of dealing with the situation like a professional....i.e. getting proof of his dalliances, forcing them to keep quiet, etc.

In my opinion, it was WRONG of her to start this AFTER she left. If she felt so strongly about it, she should have stayed and fought.

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M.L.

answers from Colorado Springs on

This is one of those things that sounds better in the imagination than it turns out to being in real life. It's better to leave the job with class.

Just saw your SWH. What's done is done. If it opens a can of worms, the staff will have to deal with it - hopefully more honestly than has been shown in the situation so far.

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J.G.

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I quit a job once and used company stamps to send a tell all letter to the board--it was a small NFP.

I was youngish and naive. I'm sure it just made me look crazy thinking back on it, but I was determined to stand up for what I knew to be right.

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S.B.

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That would be a very bad idea. It could potentially subject you to be sued about something. It could also follow you when you are seeking new employment. If you have not already quit your job, try to find a new job first. Don't complain or bad mouth about your past job to a potential employer. Talk about the skills you would bring to a new position and a new company. Good luck! Some companies will do an exit interview when you leave.

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S.T.

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yeah, your SWH does cast a different light on the problem.
i guess the ideal thing to do is to report the issue to some kind of oversight committee. just telling everyone already at job won't do much to change things, just make the atmosphere worse. maybe the consulate could help?
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V.S.

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Be a grown up. Quit and move on. Don't be a drama queen with some big mass email.

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