FACEBOOK Question - Fulton,CA

Rosebud:

It could mean several things - that he hasn't posted anything lately. Or that he has his privacy settings set soo high - and this does happen - that even though you are a friend, you can't post on his wall - one my friend's had this because his soon to be ex wife was going psycho on his wall. We could comment on his posts and pics, but we couldn't go to his wall and say "HEY!!"

Send him a message and ask him if he has his privacy settings set too high that you can't post on his wall. If he does - like you said - you don't want to be friends with him then!

I'm assuming if you trust him enough to see your posts, personal interests, pictures, etc, then you know him well enough to ask him what's up with his page. That's what I'd do. Sometimes people don't even know how their page got the way it did.

He might not know that his settings are set that way. Just ask him RB.

You will be able to see his stuff once you friend him. He has his privacy set so that non-friends can't see his info and that's smart.

Meaning I'm looking at their page BEFORE or AFTER I've friended them?

Most of my friends are set 'friends only'. The new update changed "invitees can see what friends see" to only VERY limited aspects (you can choose what invitees see, I THINK).

BEFORE: All the time. Then I see their posts afterward once we've both accepted.

AFTER: My friends in the diplomatic corps don't post. They have pages so that they can see other people's stuff, but for personal things they email / have Flickr accts, etc for sharing pictures and news. Aside from those folks, I've never come across anyone else with no posts.

He can totally delete anything that anyone posts to his Wall. As others have said, it sounds like he has his privacy on a very restrictive setting. I've done that with people who have repeatedly friend requested me whom I don't really want to have see all my personal stuff. They usually end up defriending me, which is fine by me.

I'd defriend him too.

My FIL deletes his posts after he reads them. He has little or nothing on his wall.

There is a setting in the new privacy section where your posts are blocked after X amount of time so NO one can see them except you. I would ask him what's up. He may just not post. He might just enjoy reading other peoples posts and not bother with it himself.

It could be something in your settings too. I would ask just to make sure before assuming anything.

He probably has high privacy settings. I use the groups features for my settings. Some people who are my "friends" on facebook I haven't seen in 20 years and they can only see my public posts. Sometimes I forget to assign someone to a group that has access to my more "personal" posts (not that I would ever post something really personal to facebook). I go through my friends list every now and then to update the settings.

If you want to be in touch with him, stay "friends", set your privacy settings according to how close you are... if you don't care either way, unfriend him. Easy.

I have a friend who has her settings so that you can't post anything on her wall or make comments on her posts or pics. She did this because she wanted to control her page in case her employer looked at it. She told everyone if they wanted to comment or had something to say to just send her a pm.

I have a facebook account that I don't post to because of my job. If I post ANYTHING, I have to have it backed up by a third party. It's easier not to post. But being on face book make it easier to keep up with their lives and I just send E-mails or call when I have something to share..

He can't delete the posts that others post to his wall, only his, I know because I tried. I did "hide" it, but I don't know if others couldn't see it or just me.

Why not mention it to him to see what he says? I had a friend whose wall wasn't showing up for months, she didn't know why, then it showed up, disappeared, then came back and has stayed. Has to be a FB glitch in her case, may be the same in his.

I would defriend him. Really.

Dawn