I have a friend who uses facebook as a way to bully people. Every time she has an issue with anyone she publicizes it on her post. I think this is very childish but it makes her feel better to think she is getting praise from other people. Recently, I am the victim. What do you think? It hurts my feelings and I know people will follow her because she has a strong mind. She never uses names (unless it is her kids.) I am getting very upset. I have talked to her about it but she pretends to not understand. ***I forgot to mention that she is my roommate!! That makes it so much harder. I just signed a year lease with her. She is also working at the same place as I am. I saw her do this to another person but I was not sure what was going on. She also uses facebook to bully her kids. They are older and this seems very unfair....***
I appreciate all of you taking time to answer this for me and I got some good thoughts from you. I just wanted to tell you that she came to me and asked me what is wrong. She is really moody. Sometimes I feel like I am in a soap opera. I think I will just have to learn to get tougher skin because she is so headstrong. She told me that she wants everything to be the way it used to be. I am hoping that this is something that will eventually work out.
Doesn't sound like any kind of friend I'd like to keep around. I'd unfriend her and block her, and not just from FB.
Block her and move on. Don't give her the attention or those who follow her and play her games. Good luck!
Oi.
Since she is your roommate... I wouldn't block her. You will have to deal with her every day, and if she is really SOOO dramatic, then to block her on FB would be a declaration of war.
Instead, I would simply 'hide' her statuses so you don't have to see them. ;)
(IF she ever notices, just play dumb... "Oh, WOW! I didn't even REALIZE I wasn't getting your news feed? How do you fix it?!?! Wow, Facebook has some really screwy settings, doesn't it?" lol.)
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If you don't like it - unfriend her - block her. Why waste your time with her negativity?
If she notices you are gone and asks about it? Tell her the truth. Simple as that. I don't like that you belittle people on facebook. It's demeaning to you and everyone who reads it. I have chosen NOT to deal with your negativity.
If you don't have the hutzpah to delete her - just "hide" her comments. Then you can go to her page when you want to see what's going on.
Close your FB account.
You LIVE with her AND work with her? You have my sympathy.
Time for some changes maybe?
First she doesn't have a strong mind, don't give her that. I have never met a person who manipulates that has a strong mind. They are usually weak and pathetic and hope if they keep people scared you just never figure that out.
Think about it, she is tearing you down to make herself feel better. She is feeding off your hurt. Does that sound like a strong person to you?
Look up passive aggressive behavior because that is what you are dealing with. Block her and move on.
And why is she still your "friend", if you've seen how she treats others?
Even if she hadn't turned on you before this, do you really value the friendship of a person so callous toward others?
Eventually, others will see her for what she really is.... as you said, she is a bully. The sooner you get away from her, the better. Maintain your friendships with others, and ignore what she says. The others will see the truth.
Drop her as a friend on fb, and block her comments so you don't see what she says about you or others.
I agree with the other posts, not a friend. Block or unfriend her. My understanding is you can set up your posts so only certain people see them or certain people don't even if they are still a facebook friend. If you unfriend her be ready for her to ask why as she's the type who probably keeps track of these things.
Just hide her completely from your newsfeed. Ignore as best you can in real life and be polite. See if you can get someone else take over your lease so that you can find a new apartment.
I agree with Jenna. Blocking her prevents her from seeing any of YOUR posts, so that would create even more bad blood. This isn't someone who is mature and deals with problems rationally, so you don't want to invite that kind of drama. Simply hide her news feed so you can't see it.
Doesn't really sound like much of a friend to me. I would just "de-friend" her. And then if she asks, be honest and tell her why. Sounds like she has "issues"!!!
I had a similar issue with one of my nieces - she kept posting all kinds of stuff about different "jobs" she had when in reality they were schemes she was getting involved with via the internet. She wouldn't listen to any of us about them being illegal, etc. and kept posting things trying to get others involved. I didn't de-friend her but I stopped her updates from appearing on my page. Now if I want to see what she's up to I can still go to her page but it's not being shoved down my throat by being on MY page.
Good luck!!
She sounds very immature. The fact that she wouldn't even have a "big girl" conversation when you tried to talk to her speaks volumes. I would say move on.
