You've had some good responses on here, I'd just like to add my two cents.
First of all, any suggestion for an abortion because there "might" be something wrong makes no sense to me. Truly a lack of value of human life.
Second, as a mom of a special needs child I can understand going through a pregnancy in fear. My 3rd child showed short long-bones on ultrasound during pregnancy, indicating Down Syndrome. She is perfect and healthy, if a bit short. I then went on to have a noneventful pregnancy resulting in my third daughter, healthy and normal. My next pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage at 9 weeks, a horrible but blameless experience. My 5th child had short long-bones and a questionable nasal bone shown in ultrasounds, again indicating Down Syndrome. I was referred to a maternal fetal specialist ,and an amniocentesis was suggested several times during my pregnancy, but since we would never abort regardless of the diagnosis, we refused.
I asked my Dr. if he would treat my pregnancy any differently knowing that this child had a chromosomal abnormality and the answer was "no", so I didn't want to risk the miscarriage from the amnio (which I know is low, but it is still a risk). Our state of mind was that if this child only lived ten minutes outside the womb, we'll take our ten minutes and be grateful for it. God gives us everything for a reason.
Our child is 10 months old today. He has Pallister-Killian Syndrome, a very rare chromosomal abnormality. He does have medical issues, and is developmentally delayed, but I wouldn't change him. He is by far our easiest child, personality wise. To me, he is perfect. He has brought us closer to God, I've found out who our true friends are because of him, and I have met some really wonderful people through the PKS support group because of him. Like I stated before, God gives us everything for a reason.
I know the panic feeling of "trapped" by an abnormal pregnancy, the fear that I may not love this child the same if he/she isn't "normal", and every other rational or irrational feeling that goes along with an uncertain diagnosis.
My hope for you is that you are carrying a perfect "normal" child. But my long winded point is that if there is something going on with this child, I hope you find peace, love and acceptance in the gift that God has given you. God bless.
~D.~
"Everything does not have to be perfect to still be wonderful."