Donnissue with Older Kid at My Sons Sitters

Talk to the sitter, explain that you know she is aware and corrects the boy when it happens. Tell her that while you know she's is correcting him, the boy continues to do it and you would were wondering if she has spoken to his parents to get their help in preventing it. If continued correcting hasn't prevented, something different should be tried. It is hard since he's 3 but he is old enough to stop hitting when he is repeatedly told.

Since it is happening at the sitter's she really should be the one to approach the other parents.

I have relatives who have various levels of mental retardation and regardless of abilities (be they functioning at 6 yrs old or 10), they can learn basics like no hitting. Is it that he's being a toddler and not able to make the leap to appropriate behavior or is it that they don't rein him in when he does this, using the disability as an excuse? I would talk to the sitter first, since you saw it in her care. I would express your concerns, calmly, and ask her how she plans to resolve it such that your child is safe and not being bullied or harmed while with this other child. Is the child in any early intervention program? It may benefit him if he is not, and benefit the sitter, too (and by association, your child). It also matters if he was trying to "play" or if he was being deliberately mean.

We turned down a sitter sharing situation because the older boy (whose only problem is that he's a brat) was mean toward his sister. I didn't want my baby in the middle of that. Just saying that you have to evaluate the situation and make the right choice for your child. If it can be resolved, great! If not, then at least you tried but you need to look out for your kid.

Edit, because I thought the child was smacking your child and no one was doing anything. If YOUR child is smacking his father, then that's something that also needs to be addressed. My daughter (as many toddlers do) went through a hitting stage and it had nothing to do with other children. Not that your child should be hit or have toys thrown at him, but I think it may ALSO be that your child has hit this developmental stage.

I assume you mean the other boy kept hitting your son. The other child has to learn to not hit. Learning disability or no. I would definitely tell the parent of the child. I would say I'm concerned that my son is really going to get hurt. What if a toy that is in joke gets him in the eye or sharp piece by his head or ear. Please try to teach your boy not to hit. Also though you need to understand its normal behavoir for kids to hit at that age. They are still learning what is appropriate. It takes supervision and learning conditioning to learn to control some behavoirs. No need for an all out war just requesting the sitter keep the kids apart for a little while until the boy learns some control.

Well he is hitting and throwing things at your baby. I would say something to the sitter and the mother. I know you said the sittere is aware of whats going on but she obviously has no control. Has she told this childs mother? I wouldn't take a chance of my baby getting seriously hurt I PERSONALY would find a new daycare center but that's just me. I would find one where the kids a seperated into ages 1yo and 3 yo should not be together. The older boy could be in early preschool and your baby should be with infants. Becareful if you say anything to your coworker though I wouldn't mention your thoughts on his learning problems, it's not your place. Just lay out the facts about what's going on,you do have to see her regularly and moms can be pretty defensive. Good Luck!