Doesn't Anyone Socialize Any More?? Definitely Seeking Moms in Pleasanton Area

Hi H..
I just found this sight and your post was the first one that popped up.
I have lived in Pleasanton for about 25 years. Even though it is a small town compared to LA, my former home, it is pretty clicky which kills the quaint feel. Maybe it is my Ohio upbringing, but I feel your pain. I would love to get together for a walk and a chat. Maybe we can solve some of the world's problems😀. Please feel free to email me. Talk to you soon. M.

I bet somebody has already suggested this if you have posted three times, but join a mom's club. I am a member of both Amador Mothers Club and Pleasanton Mothers Club. It might take a bit to get into a good playgroup, but if you do, you might make friends for life. Also, get involved with the organization. You will automatically get to know the women on the board/steering committees and you will then know people at most of the activities. Turning that into actual friendship isn't always automatic or easy, but I believe you can do it.

I think moving somewhere new is always hard! I don't think people sometimes realize that someone is new, and how hard it is! We are sometimes guilty of living in our own little worlds with so much to do, and forget to look around and take the time to meet people and spend time with them. I have found that 2 of the the absolute best ways for me to meet people is through church and the kid's school. If you become involved at school, in the pta, in your child's class, you will meet a lot of fun people. If your kids aren't school aged yet, then get involved in a co op preschool, or play group. Sometimes you have to be the one to invite people to get together... Hope this helps...

Hi there! I live in Pleasanton & haven't run into that problem...esp if you are seeking out friendships. How old are your kids? If they're school age have you tried making friends w/ parents at school? Having lived here since High School age (I'm 38 now & have 2 kids age 7)I have different types of friends but now I mostly hang out w/ parents of kids my kids ages that I've met during drop off & pick up at school. My ideas: meet moms at activities like gymnastics, moms club, library activities, soccer, school etc. See who you seem compatible with & see if anyone's interested in a walk, yoga or other gym type class, coffee, moms night out. I hope one of these ideas helps! Good luck!

Hi H.,

I'm sorry you are feeling so unconnected! I felt similarly when I stopped working to stay home with my first child. It helped when I joined a mother's club in the area. I suggest checking out www.amadormothersclub.com. You can choose to get set up in a playgroup or not. Additionally, I've found joining some of the sub clubs in the club has really helped meet people too.

Anyway, I'm sure you will find your niche! Pleasanton really is a nice town!

Good luck!
- K.

I live in Pleasanton and the one thing I love about it, is that it reminds me of a small town. You can't go to the grocery store or out to dinner without running into someone you know. The problem with a "small town feel" is that everyone knows each other, some for years, so there are only a few of those "newbies" around, hahaha. I lived here for almost 2years before I got to know anyone and like the ladies below said, it was through my kids school. Kindergarten year I started a bunco group with other moms in the class and 5 years later, we are all still together and really great friends.
If your kids are still yong I highly encourge MOPS, (Mothers of PreSchoolers). There is a great one I joined as my second daughter was about 4 years old, (contact info below.) It was a great resource to meet other moms just like you. I believe they meet 2 Tuesday's a month. They have breakfast and talk about different topics and child care is provided. I only wish I had found them sooner. I work from home too and it was hard to meet moms in a new neighborhood.If you would like to meet for coffee sometime, just let me know!

Good Luck!!!
M.

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hey, mama! my husband and i are also mid-west transplants (me since the age of five, from wisconsin, and he eight years ago from chicago! he teases that he had to move to cali to find his midwest girl hee hee) -
we live in san leandro (about 25 min. drive from pleasanton), have an almost 4 yr old daughter and i just wanted to reach out and tell you that you might find a few friends who just happen to not live in your new city :) there are some great mom groups here in the bay area, too, so maybe you can get into one of them?
anyhow, i'd love to hear about your kid(s), kabitz about kids and husbands and ourselves and life in general :)
i do work out of the home - i had the absolute pleasure of being a stay at home mom for 3 yrs, and now i teach art 2 days a week at my daughter's school and nanny a 4 month old adorable baby 3 days a week...i get to have my daughter with me every day, and i love it!
tell me about you! what prompted your move here?
keep hope alive, mama! you sound outgoing and very pleasant, i'm sure you'll find those friend you're looking for :)
cheers,
S.

Hi,
I live in Pleasanton, too, but unfortunately, I work full-time. My family is not in town either and I agree that it's hard to make connections here. There is a great moms group that I joined on meetup.com called the Tri-Valley Active Moms. I don't participate as much now that I'm back to work, but they are a great group of people. I also belong to MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) which meet 2 times a month and is a social moms thing. I can give you more info if you want to join. I'm open to some conversation if we can make our schedules work.
M.

Hi H.,
I too came here from the Chicago area about 12 years ago. Granted I was 25 at the time, but I found it hard to find that further connection you talk about. CA and IL are not the same by any means, but in time I managed to find at least a couple of strong friendships. I'm a working Mom so unfortunately I don't have that time to socialize with other Moms, but don't give up. There are a ton of people in the Tri-Valley that have relocated from the Mid-West just like yourself and I'll bet those are the woman you'll connect with in time. Good Luck!