Does Your Mom Call You?

My mom never called me because she assumed that I was busier than she was, and she didn't want to bother me. She waited for me to call her. Now she has Alzheimer's and can't talk on the phone anymore, and I wish I had called more often when she was able to hold phone conversations.

Don't bean count - just call her while you can.

We talk to each other every few weeks.
Sometimes I call her and sometimes she calls me.

She's 82 and doesn't have an answering machine or cell phone or computer or any devices except for a tv.
If I call and there's no answer - I just call her back later.

You have to know what her schedule is - and call when she's available.

If you are just calling to "chat" why can't you send a heartfelt letter instead? The post office is still in business and would be more than happy, for the amount of .49 cents, deliver your mom a message.

I'm not trying to be snarky or anything - I just feel like letter writing is a lost art. I wish more people would use it to keep in contact with each other.

Good luck!

Nope. My mom is dead. Has been for 4 years. She had a LOT of hearing problems prior to her death, so I would call or my dad would call and put her on speaker in the car...LOL!!

My dad and I talk daily. He calls me or I call him. He has an iPhone 6S and is having a horrible time with it lately. So sometimes we get cut off.

Call your brother's house since she's there. That sounds like common sense to me.

Good luck!

Both.. I talk to my mom and dad (divorced many years). daily. I don't knit pick on who makes the call. I'm blessed that they are still alive. Many other friends don't have their parents around.

My daughter and I talk daily as well.

Cherish your time. You never know when that will change. My husband died suddenly in 2015 and I cherish the time we had together and mourn because I miss him so much.

I call her and she calls me. She has an answering machine but rarely checks it so if I get the machine I just hang up and try again later.

I usually play phone tag with my mom every couple of weeks until we manage to connect. A lot of times we're both thinking about calling the other but end up putting it off for some reason. I'd rather have one decent phone call infrequently than talking all the time about weather and nothings. I don't like being on the phone just to be on it.

My MIL hates being on the phone and doesn't use a computer. I write a 2-4 page letter about once a month to tell her what we've been doing.

Both - usually it's a logistics question though...when are we celebrating a birthday, what am I bringing to dinner, etc.

Does she like to email? Maybe she's just one of those people who doesn't like to talk on the phone?

Both. I am the mom and my daughter calls me every other day or sometimes every day. If she is busy I will hear from her about every three to four days. Then there are days we call several times a day to each other. It just depends on what is going on in our lives.

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Sounds like you should do what I did, I got my mom a phone on my plan. She's just now gotten off of it after years of being on it and gone on her husbands. We paid $10 extra a month for her line on our plan so it was worth it to me for her to have a phone. We used to talk almost daily but after she met her now husband we don't talk as much but it's ok. We will both call each other and text depending on what we feel line.

If you mom watches your brothers kids full time she's probably exhausted when she get's home. have you ever told you how you feel about not being able to get ahold of her?

both. i call her she calls me we chat on facebook. we talk daily. when i need her either she or my dad is able to watch my kids. they live 5 minutes away from me and have to pass by my house to get to town so they (both her and my dad) will stop by if we are outside. my mom is my best friend. and i will be lost without her!~

maybe she's just not a phone person.

is there other media you could use to stay in touch with her? my dad and i are both not-phone people, so we email more than anything else. but we're okay with not talking all the time.

if the relationship is fine outside the limited phone calls, that's fantastic. i'd love to be able to talk to my mom or stepmumsie once every couple of months.
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Both. Sometimes I call her when she is literally holding the phone to dial me (I guess we have a telepathic connection), or I call her. There are times she will call to check on me if she hasn't heard from me for more than a day, or if she wants to ask me something, but we talk pretty much daily, at least during the week. I call her on my drive home from work. Sometimes she will call me at work, but very rarely, since I always call her in the evenings anyway.

She has a cellphone she always keeps off (I don't get why but have been gotten nowhere with that when trying to explain that cellphones are only useful if they are on and people can call!) so she only relies on her landline. If I cannot reach her, I leave her a message on the answering machine. Her phone lights up red when she has a voicemail, so she is pretty quick to respond.

I suggest next time you talk to her, set up a time when the 2 of you can talk, either Saturday or Sunday when she may not have your brothers children or in the evening(s) at a time not around the dinner hour, but before her bedtime. Let her know you miss talking to her and would like to converse frequently, either daily or weekly. I bet she misses talking to you too.

My mother lives in the same city as I do. She has a cell phone. She works 5 hours a day. She never calls me. She never watches my children.
I used to be the one to call, drop in, bring treats. Now I don't. I made a conscious decision to stop "begging" her to be the mom I wish she was. She won't. So...we just live 8 miles away and do our own thing.

Nope...my mom died from leukemia when I was 17.