So hubby and I are in a rut. :(
We've been together just over 3 years and married for 2 1/2 years. We also have two children who just turned 1 and 2.
I never thought making a sex schedule would work. It even seemed odd and silly to me at first. But we have recently picked certain days a week that we must have sex. It is going well so far.
Anyone other moms here do this with their husband or s/o?
I'd love to hear how it has worked out for other couples. Thanks.
This was my idea for us to try. I'd have sex 5 times a day, but hubby's gained weight and always feels tired. So a schedule keeps him from making excuses. :)
Every day....except when it's that time of the month or one of us leaves before the kids are in bed (like a Girls Evening Out) or one of us is SUPER tired (which isn't often). It's just what works for us!!
hmm no i didnt know we were allowed to do that. i'm bringing home a calendar today and marking its an obligation on every day=)
i mean if the celendar says it you have to right?
anyway
i think instead of a celendar i'd make it a point to do other things throughout the week that would encourage that to happen on its own
shower once a week together
lay on the couch spooning while watching a movie
one day of x rated dice game or something fun?
that way if you J. decided to cuddle or fool around one day because you were tired you'd still be intimate and the opportunities would be there.
with my ex he tracked on an excel spreadsheet how often i did each thing to him....and actually used that as a fight. when it was a schedule I always felt not into it and dreaded it. when you have a 1 year old and are tired and KNOW you have to put out it becomes not fun, for M. atleast,, but if i did the above and had days of being intimate (cuddling, showering together) with no pressure it wouldve happened on its own
Wow, that's pretty cool if it works for you.
I am so opposite. Once a year is fine with me. (Yes, I had full tests and there is nothing wrong). That's just how I feel. It's just not on my radar.
But of course I have to allow it more often, but I seriously don't like it at all.
Maybe I'm just another mom who is exhausted at the end of the day and others are out there like that. I just want to read a book!
Yup. With 2 small children and 2 full-time jobs ... if we don't plan it, it doesn't happen! Twice a week works for us. The days sometimes move around, of course, depending on what's going on. But having a rough schedule definitely helps.
When we have gotten out of the habit in the past we have made efforts to increase it by planning days or saying we would have sex every other day no matter what, and it can help. Often the more you have sex the more your want it, so by forcing it a little at first you can often help both of your libidos to pick back up.
Don't have a set schedule, but barring "that time of the month", at least once on the weekend and once mid week - averages about every 3 days give or take. Works fine for us. I think his libido is more active than mine but we're both ok with this frequency.
We don't have a set schedule but we've had to resign ourselves to penciling time in on the calendar. Well, not literally LOL but you know what I mean. Life gets busy and this way we make sure it happens. These days I can hardly remember how it felt to be the younger me who insisted on spontaneity!
My hubby and I have an "every other night" schedule. It works out extremely well. We do have sex other times, but it's every other night at the very LEAST. It works out well because he has a much stronger sex drive than I do. This way he KNOWS when he's going to get it again so I don't have to turn him down. Now, if he asks or tries to initiate on an "off" night, sometimes I go with it and sometimes not. But he doesn't get his feelings hurt if I turn him down because he KNOWS he's having sex the next night anyway.
Yeah, it works REALLY well for us.
Our schedule is every other night:)
My first husband and I did. He bugged me every single night without fail, and we always fought about sex. We finally reached an every other night agreement. That way I got every other night free from being bugged and he got sex every other night. (just typing this is making me throw up in my mouth a little). I absolutely HATED IT. Oh, I was glad to get free of the continual begging for sex, but I DISLIKED sex with him intensly.
Now I only WISH my current hubby could handle every other night. He has some ED problems, so I'm lucky to get it once a month. :-( Second hubs is VERY TALENTED.....
Well, my husbands only day off is Sunday, so thats usually always a given. But it just depends on how we feel when he finally gets home from work at night.
I tend to like it more than once a week, so we try our best.
Never set a schedule though.
We only have two nights a week when it is feasible, so it's got to be one or the other, if not both.
