Divorced Parent Wants Photographs

I am unclear as to why you have not seen your child in a month? Is there a court order that allows visitation? I am not assuming anything but if there is a court order and you are not seeing your daughter because of you own choices then I probably wouldn't be sending you pictures either. My ex hasn't seen our kids in over 8 yrs by his own choice. I absolutely do not make a point of sending him pictures and if he asked I would tell him he can visit and take his own pictures. However, if that is not the case for you then I think it is reasonable to ask for pictures but I would probably shorten the email and stick to the main point. This email seems long and confusing.

I wouldn't appreciate receiving an e-mail like that from a former spouse/partner that I have to share parenting duties with. I might have kept it short, simple, and polite.

"Dear Joey,
I hope you and Samantha are doing well and having fun this summer. I've missed her and would enjoy seeing any pictures you might have of her lately. You can send them directly to my e-mail or my cell phone. I'd also like to plan a visit with her soon, so let's arrange a time to discuss when that might be possible.
Sincerely,
M. F."

Have you not seen her in a month because of summer visitation schedules where you'll be getting an extended period of time soon? Otherwise, it's odd that you don't have visitation time with her more often. If your daughter is old enough to have a phone with a camera, why does your ex need to be involved at all? Ask your daughter to send you a couple of pics here and there to let you know what she's up to. If she's above 13, she could just put them on Facebook for you.

The problem with your email was that it was too long and detailed. Plus, you made a request that your ex is under no obligation to provide unless he so chooses. You should have simply told him that you miss ____ and would love to see some pictures of her every so often and will reciprocate by providing pictures of her during your time with her. You have no right to expect pictures showing him and his family, though. That can cross into an invasion of his privacy, and you really have no reason to want those pictures except for checking up on him or unresolved feelings for him.

You come across as too controlling and you are crossing too many boundaries. Maybe he doesn't even take photos. Sorry if it sounds blunt--I'm sure you really do miss your daughter!!

My kids are with their dad this summer and I understand how you're feeling :-(. He requests I send photos during the school year and I do, but he has yet to send me anything. They just put the first pics on FB and they've been gone nearly 3 weeks.

You can ask, but I think you came off as a little controlling. If I had gotten this from my ex, I doubt I would respond.

Good luck and I hope you get some pictures soon!

why arent you demanding to see your kids? a month is a long time..when my ex didnt show up for his visitation-i gave him NOTHING!..why? because a picture doesnt cover time the kids need with both parents.and if he isnt doing his part then you need to step up and take control..