Divorce: My Husband Will Not Move Out.

With all due respect to YoMama, do not leave the family home. His lawyers could argue that you abandoned him and/or the home. Have you tried therapy? Try that and/or a good attorney. Good luck to you, M..

First, get an attorney. No one can be forced to leave a shared home unless there is a court order or divorce decree stating who is entitled to the marital home. Do you rent or own and your name is the only one on the lease or mortgage paperwork? If so, maybe you could get the law involved and get him out that way.

Don't move out. My friends daughter did this and he claimed she abandoned him and the children. He got full custody of the children and kept so much of "her' stuff. Get a lawyer. You need real legal advise! Not just from us laypeople. We don't have too many details about what's going on (children, are you working or not working, etc) and that's okay but it could potentially be complicated. When you get a lawyer, make sure its a divorce lawyer and not just any lawyer. Its too bad this happened and I wish you the best.

call the lawyer and call now.. they will get him out.. good luck

The only thing that can get him out of the house is a finalization of a divorce. He legally has every right to be there until a divorce is complete.

I would make an appointment to see a therapist who can help you get through this tough time. Maybe make an appt for both of you to go together and let the therapist know that you are looking for support to get the divorce underway.

I don't know the laws in your state but he may not have to move out if he paid any money on the house, it's his too. You really need to look in the phone book and find free 30 minute consultation attorneys. They will know how you can file for legal separation or divorce. It may be that he gets the house and you have to move anyway.

Hi,
I personaly think you can never i say never forget an affair It is Unforgatable like the death of a child .It was and sometimes still is the death of your marriage after all .But you can choose to forgive and try.He has to understand though that you just simply can't trust him for awhile.So,If you want to have his password on emails,check his cell phone,computer....You have the right to do so and exige so as long as you need too.If you see that he change his actions and his seriously devoted to you once again like he used too ,you'll start to trust him a little more each year.Until, one day you realized either two things it is not working out and he is not willing to amend ,so it is time to get out .Or you start finding yourself trusting him more and more and loving him more more for his love and dedication to you each day.It took about two and half year for me to trust my husband again and it did include a family vacation and we could really bond with each other as a couple and family without the stresses of work and life.Like i said you will never forget and him neither but it is not always a bad things as it can keep you and your husband in check when things get somewhat tuff.Now we never wait more than a week or so before talking to each other if something bother us.So, like i said you will never forget so this expectation of forgetting is too high but you can choose to forgive.However your husband got it wrong according to me .Yes, you can forgive but not if you try hard enough but if HE tries hard enough at gaining your trust again by being totally transparent and even being checked upon(this one is very hard for a man to accept as their ego is really high but it did helped me)And hey he is the one who cheated on you.
Your husband needs to change his attitude of it was just a simple mistake try hard enough to forgive me(HOw could you ever forgave him,not forget remember with THAT attidude)to I am willing to do whatever it will take for you to trust me again even if it takes two ,five .ten years.If he tries seriously,it won't take that long i promise.Mine was just a short emotional affair over the internet and it still took about two years to get over it.Part of it was that during that first year my husband had the attitude that he wasn't a big deal as it wasn't even in person.It took some couple therapy and humilty lessons on his part but once he changed his attutude to it was so wrong and i can't believe and i am so sorry that i hurt you that much and will try my hardest to never ever hurt you so bad again ,things start getting better and are still getting better each day.Five years done the road, i am so happy that i choose the harder road of forgiving him.But i will never forget,that's impossible.Your heart was scar probably for life.If you are Christian praying about my hatred towards my husband helped me a lot too.
Hope this help.
N.

I hate that this is my first response to it, but start dating. Try to set a date, have your date pick you up at the door of your house, and try to set the pick-up time for when you know your husband will be home. It could be that he just doesn't "get it" regarding how you feel about the affair. Maybe he needs to see that you've moved on before it will sink in.

Good luck!

Sorry but he has the right as you do to live there. If you do not want to be in the same house, then you have to be the one to move out. That decision has to be made by a judge, in a legal court.
Forgiveness is a choice, not something you try. You never forget, you only forgive. Yes blindly trust again. You either do or you don't. If you are unable and unwilling then you should take whatever steps needed to leave this unhealthy relationship and seek consoling for yourself. Just because you've left the source of pain and distrust it will not end the emotional issues that you will carry with you where ever and with whomever you share your life with.
Best Regards,
C.

Please rent the movie "Fireproof"
I have a friend thats husband had an affair. She chose to forgive, only because she has 3 boys and still had love left. Their marriage was horrible before, and now it has grown leaps and bounds.
The affair started because of miscommunication. He didn't think she loved him, she didn't think he loved her. He stepped out. It went off and on for years!
The only way she made it through forgiving was through GOD-scriptures-church and watching change happen before their eyes. Without that, it would not have worked. She has went through so much emotion and pain.
The question is:
A. Do you have children? B. Is there any love left? C. Is he a chronic liar..or does he truly feel sorrow, repentance and the need for counseling and change?
Many questions to answer.

Also, he has to be willing to let you cry, scream, shout, question, and grieve. If he cannot do that- again, it won't work. He made the mistake,
he has to be ready for the complete array of emotions coming out.
he can't expect you to do a FLIP turn, without facing repercussions.
he also has to be ready to lead with the healing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you!! Hang in there-this pain shall pass

Dig into GOD/scriptures/support :)

Can YOU leave? And I also agree with the attorney part...if he makes more than you, then if you are "forced" to leave because he won't, he may be legally obligated to support you.

M.,
My heart goes out to you and your children. Friends and family (along with a good lawyer) are what are going to get you through this. Your husband sounds like an arrogant s.o.b. thinking he could put his family thru this and he's still not respecting your wishes. Hopefully you have a Plan B since it sounds like he's not going anywhere. Always be the better person and make sure you never put yourself or children in harms way. Keep things calm. I just dealt with a similar situation with my good friend, but her husband respected her wishes and moved out. Take care of yourself!

If your husband is willing to salvage your marriage, it sounds like a wonderful opportunity. A lot of churches in the area (try East Valley Bible) have free counseling, so why not give it a try? See what can be done before throwing in the towel. Best wishes!!

.