I'm kinda done with this marriage right now for various reasons. What is the first step to take? How do I go about finding a good lawyer? I am also really afraid of losing custody of my kids. I don't think that's really possible, I can support us (I'm a dentist)but you never know what kind of things people may say about you. I'm also on Zoloft (because of my marriage)and he may try to use that against me. Anyhow, I know others have been in this situation before. Any help would be appreciated! We tried counseling last year, he wasn't into it b/c he didn't think we needed it.
K.
K. C,
Hang in there, things will get better. When you hire your lawyer the answer of him taking custody of the children will not even be possible. Custody battles are very detailed & expensive & very time consuming. Good luck & take care of yourself.
K.:
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K. -
Haven't been through it myself, but hear good things about The Lilac Tree in Evanston at the YWCA on Church St. They also have a website. It is a non-profit that educates and supports women contemplating or going through divorce. They have workshops, info sessions, etc.
Good luck!
Barbara
Sorry to hear about the end of your marriage. Mine ended as well, so I know what you're going thru. I too was on Zoloft (as is 1/2 of the world, it seems...). Anyway, my advice is to do as much behind the scenes as you can. If you don't have accounts (credit, checking, savings, etc.) in your name only, get them before you file. Interview SEVERAL lawyers and pick the one YOU want. DO NOT TELL YOUR HUSBAND YOU WANT A DIVORCE UNTIL YOU HAVE ALL YOUR DUCKS IN A ROW. I also prepared by reading books on father's rights, so that I would know all the "dirty tricks" that my husband's attorney might pull on me. That helped immensely!
Remember to always be the one wearing the white hat. The judges have seen it all, and they can spot a phoney a mile away.
Lastly, hang on because the divorce ride is a long and bumpy one.
D.
