Disipline Problem!

I know how hard it can be. I just went through this myself. I have a little boy and they are hard at this age. I will tell you that he does it all for attention. I got to the poing I put him in his crib, closed the door and walked away. At times I had to go outside so I wold feel guilty for what I was doing. But you have to remember if you dohn't fix it now it will all be harder to do later. If you need any more thoughts or opinions just email me. I am more than willing to help. I know how hard it is and I don't have any outside family here to help.

Tiffany,

There's a book called "1-2-3 Magic" that I highly recommend. I can't remember the author's name, but I bet another mom here does. You've got to nip this in the bud now because it will only get worse as he gets older. Having a 2 yr old hit mom doesn't hurt so much, you'll tend to not make a big deal of it. Having a 15 yr old do it is a different story.

You can do it. Have faith!
S.

Single mom to an aggressive 8-yr old boy w/ADHD.

He's 2 hes at the age where hes going to try to push his limits and your buttons along with it. If you are in a store and he throws a fit drop what you are doing and leave the store. leave the cart where it is and explain to him on your way out that hes not being a good boy and that only good boys get to stay in the store. If hes throwing violent tantrums you might have to hold him so he wont hurt him self, you or break something. or put him in a play pen somewhere he cant get hurt . Whatever you do you have to be consistant or it wont work. And chose a punishment and stick with it DO NOT give in that reinforces the bad behavior. he will grow out of it but you are going to have to be tough. And its going to be hard for you to not give up and just give in to what he wants.
good luck,
B.

he is a two yr old they do have temper tantrums but do not let him get out of hand. try the basics first ignore the bad behavior then do not let him get his way just because he is causing you a little embarassment or he will continue to do it if it comes down to it pop his little butt and get his attention. good luck on this one i have been through 4 of them all boys and this method worked very well for me. I am married now but when i was going through this i was a single mom of 3 myself.

Hi Tiffany, I hve the same problem with my 2 1/2 year old. He did the same things when he was 1 where he would throw down and hed bang the floor. We finally just let him do it and ignored him while he was doing it. You can't even look at their face. That is attention they are wanting. He is now 2 1/2 and still pitches fits. I do the same thing. Stick him in hsi room and say he can come out when he calms down. Another thing is he loves chocalate milk. I am taking that away next time he does not listen. If your child loves to watch Nick jr, take it away from him until he acts right and is nice to mommy. You cannot give him any attention when he acts this way. Even a spanking is attention. Try taking something from him for a week or so.

Hi, well when my kids called thereselfs went through it and we were in a store or something, I say alright keep screaming and laying on the floor BYE and walk away belive me it works they might countiue for a little under a min but just bend a corner so your out of sight dont go far and watch he comes running and thats when you tell him he's acting naugthy and being mean and do he wants mommy to be mean to him. My kids changed alot maybe it will work for you.

Wow! Sounds like you do have your handsful. My heart goes out to you (especially if you are a working single mom). I don't know how you do it.
Yes toddlers will definitely have their tantrums. A couple of things that sometimes work with my toddler boy are:

Ignore him when he starts crying/screaming (let him know that you will talk with him if he addresses you in a lower voice). I think a lot of times toddlers are craving lots of attention and it's good to praise them and give them a lot of attention when they are being GOOD!

And unfortunately bribing has been my thing for a while now.
When we are shopping I will let him take in a sucker, treat, or his favorite toy. If he acts up then I tell him that he is going straight to bed when he gets home.

Best wishes,
A. S.

My doctor recommended the book "1,2,3 Magic" for similar problems. Haven't read it yet.
K.

Be the parent!

No rewards or bribing, yes sometimes it comes in handy but it does creat problems later!

Timeouts- geta timer and stick his little booty on the chair facing the wall. Explain the timer to him, tell him 2 minutes. He can NOT get up until he hears the sound (show him the sound) if he does then he gets more time. SOmetimes you have toi hole them there.

The other day, I had to put Cameron in time out but he just kept getting up and no amount of talking or swatting his little booty worked so I plopped down next to his chair and forced him to sit there. Nothing painful, I just didn't walk away. HE served his time, went into his room until he was ready to apologise. Not even 2 minutes he was hugging and kissing me and attempting to say the word sorry.

Let Hunter know that hurting you and yelling at you isn't right. It's vert wrong, it hurts your feelings, and when he's bad he gets punished everytime time!

One thing I have learned if you can't punish them occasionally for a crime and let it go other, especially the hitting and yelling. As for him pinching himself, I'd say fine, hurt yourself but mommy isn't going to kiss it better. He wants attention and all this is normal!

I know it gets fustrating hun, trust me. Cameron will be 2 1/2 in Feb and I am a stay at home mom, and there are days it seems he was hell all day, but he's two. Just remember no matter how tired or fustrated you are, whatever he does wrong he needs a form of punishment or he'll just keep up.

DOn'tcha love the toddler stage? lol (on a serious note for the most part I do, the only thing I hate are those terrible two days!)