Disinvited to Birthday Party

I agree with the other moms - I like the idea of having a gathering of the other girls for special time. Definitely use it as a teaching moment for your daughter, and the other girls if they'll allow it.

The girl is acting as expected considering the behavior of her mother. If her mom said invite X number of guests, mom should either have allowed a few more kids or not let her daughter dis-invite people. She's the one with the problem, but unfortunately you have to deal with it :(

Good luck, and have fun with the other girls, maybe even the moms - who knows, everyone might end up with some nice friendships after all this.

I can't imagine what good confronting the mother would do, since she seems to have no manners. That's a pretty awful example to be setting for her daughter. If it were me I would tell my daughter that this girl is not being nice and you're sorry that she can't go. I would find out who else was uninvited and let those girls get together on Saturday and do something really fun. I'm sure they'd have a better time without that girl anyway. Kids can be so mean. Why a mother would go along with it is beyond me.

First - you sound like a great mom and I understand how much it pains you to see your daughter hurt. Secondly, let your daughter know that we cannot control others, just ourselves and how she reacts says so much about her character. Obviously she has a good role model and she can immulate mom.

Entertaining the other "disinvited" girls is a fabulous idea. Encourage them not to talk about the other girl but enjoy their time together. As sad as it is that this child was allowed to do this, you can help make this a positive learning experience, - disappointed yes, but life goes on.

As for this child's mom, very sad...

This is one of those unfortunate situations that could benfit your child and you. First, she will know she could come to you to share her troubles. Then, she will learn from you about desirable and, shall we say . . . less than desirable behaviors. Finally, she will learn, from watching you, how to react when she is treated in an unbelievably rude manner. Remember, that mom has friends just like her -- which means more kids behaving the same way -- so this is bound to happen again. Your child, however, could be the one to build character through this, and learn how to be a good friend, and honest person. She will be following your lead. How fortunate for your daughter that she has a mom who really does look for for her, and acts as positive role model : )