Wow....recently, I received a copy of this magazine and yesterday, I happened to read it cover- to- cover. (I just had to dig it out of the recyclable bin for you!) Ironically I noticed that you are in Joliet and this new magazine, "Christ is Our Hope - Jan/Feb 2009 edition" is touted as the Catholic Magazine of the Diocese of Joliet. Don't know what denomination you are but its principles can apply to anyone. If you can get your hands on it - it's a good article. The article is "How can a couple's Catholic faith help in understanding the true meaning of marriage?" The article is written by a licensed professional counselor in the area, Carlos Aquino, ###-###-####. Hope you can find this article. It shouldn't be that hard - it is being mailed to 187,000 homes in the Joliet diocese.
In the meantime, take baby steps. Before you throw in the towel, spend a little time trying to reconnect. My sister with 5 adult children, for thirty years, has had a standing Thursday date night with her husband... sometimes they go to dinner, sometimes they just take a long walk or get ice cream and spend time together. Also, try to find some peaceful time for yourself. You're caring for everyone else - who is taking care of you???
It sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate...with 6 kids, back to college, being a wife, mom, homemaker.....etc.... It's nice that, in your bio., you still refer to your man as a "wonderful husband", so there is hope. Take a step back and take a hard look at your life. Are his insecurities causing this dissension? What needs to change? How can you get more help around the house? Is he the problem or are you so overwhelmed that you don't know which direction to turn? It's good that you have recognized that "something" needs to change. Marriage counseling can definitely help you find direction or reconnect and, if you are feeling the disconnect, he may be too. Maybe giving that number a call might be helpful. Good luck.