Disciplining Without Punishing?

WOW
Your child has not clue about disipline at that tender age. Montel had that on his show today LOL.
What I truly believe in and practice is getting down to their level and give the 3 strike rule. A firm talking to and given 3 chances then a time out on my naughty step.
Granted I have a special needs child but it WORKS.
If I stand there and just yell, he doesn't get what I am trying to get my point, just noise he hears.
I believe in taking away toys too. He is 3 so that can be a struggle over certain toys if he really act up.
But at this tender age, just enjoy your child.
They grow up so fast and don't limit the child, encourage and them and you'll know when the buttons are being pushed. (18 months is when I realized he was getting a little bit of right to wrong)Grabbing the hands firmly and looking them in the eye w/a stern "NO" worked then too.

N.

Kudos to you for thinking about discipline so early! I think planning anything for your kids is definitely a step in the right direction. I have a 14 year old, 3 year old and one on the way and I have had complete success with disciplining them. Get down to her eye level so you don't appear as intimidating, speak to her as a young adult (no matter what age) - no baby words or sugar coating, tell it like it is and explain why you are angry, frustrated, disappointed, etc. If you have to use time out, it doesn't have to be in another room away from everyone. I used to sit my kids on the couch/chair in the same room as everyone and they were not allowed to speak or touch anything. I told them when they were ready to apologize, they could come to me BUT...saying sorry is not enough...be sure she tells you what she is sorry for therefore it resonates in her mind and most likely will make her think twice about doing it again. When it comes to dangerous situations, like touching an outlet. Explain why it is dangerous - you want to give her enough information so she is aware of the consequences and how she can get hurt. Even though you have some time, good luck and enjoy her every minute of the day!!!

Hi V.,

My son is now 15 months old. I also have a 9 year old little girl. My daughter has had sever temper tantrums since she was 2 and still to this day I have HUGE problems with her. I had her at a young age so I never really took the time out to "correct" her properly, so with my son.. I had more of an idea in my head of how I wanted to go about things. I know you have gotten respnses saying she is way to young to even be thinking about this.. but I am with you here.. of course we are going to try to raise our children the right way so we won;t always have to be punishing them.. but we all know kids will be kids. With my son he started biting BIG TIME about 2 months ago, so what I do now is whenever he does this, I kneel down right in front of him look him in the eyes and tell him " that is not nice, you hurt mommy, do not bite." if he does it again I do have a time out chair he sits there for 1 minute (it is supposed to be a minute for how ever old they are) then I stand him up, let him know why he sat there and I always give him a hug and kiss when he is threw.. I have only had to use it twice and that was last month he has not biten anyone since.
For and foremost though I have to say at the age of 6 months enjoy it. Time goes so fast with our little ones. Cherish every moment you can. But when the time comes I am a firm beleiver in eye contact, and talking softly and if that doesnt work I think time outs are a GREAT way to go, it gives us mommy's a minute to gather our thoughts and gives the little ones a chance to ponder what they did.
Good luck to you.

Good for you for thinking about it early. :D

One of my favorite books is Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. It's about respecting your child and raising them so that they have the motivation within themselves to do the right thing. Good stuff. http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/UP/ is their website. Most bookstores and maybe libraries will have it, probably.

For a broader perspective, try the Gentle Discipline board at MDC. http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?s=d...

V., she should be too young for punishment, even timeouts or anything of the sorts Don't get into books when she is so young. instead try to plant good habits early on so hopefully you won't have to punish her
vlora