J.M.
I have a four-year-old who at three started singing that "My Humps" song. We thought it was pretty hilarious at the time, but when you think about - it's not. It's especially not when that same four-year-old says, "I can't go anywhere because I look ugly. People will think this outfit is dumb," etc.
This along with several other factors have led my husband and I to just about eliminate TV in our house. We had a 100% TV free summer and this school year we allow our four-year-old one half-hour PBS cartoon about three or four times a week, and our eleven-year-old gets special permission to watch selected programming throughout the week - and that usually amounts to about one to one and half hours per week! (Sometimes she doesn't even ask - because she's busy doing other things!)
When Victoria's Secret ads and Soundbites about the latest shooting from the 10 o'clock news are run in the middle of Charlie Brown's Thanksgiving Special, you just, as a parent, can't control what the kids see. By eliminating that source of influence, eliminates a lot of problems.
They're still going to see stuff - I realize this. They see it at their TV-obsessed grandparents' house - they will see it at friends' houses, but they don't see it in my house. And, when we watch a movie, we watch it together and talk about it. I'm sure it sounds like we're controlling parents and we are to an extent, but only when it's for the good of our daughters' self-perception and brain power. (They do a lot more creative stuff now that they have no TV to run to.)
AND, it's been good for me too. I read more, I'm not constantly bombarded by violence and gratuitous medical scenes, I don't catch myself drooling as I watch another cookie cutter episode of Law and ORder (I still love that show thought - just don't watch it unless the kids are gone and I need some "brain-free" time.) I create more art, I'm more patient with the kids, etc.
So, it's not for everyone - but maybe consider limiting the media your daughter is exposed to. And by the way, I love reading, artsy stuff, karaoke and you should see my tattoos. I teach English and I used to teach journalism - and am a former journalism major. Lots of common denominators. However, I am a Gemini.
I hope this helps. Also - we listen to 89.7 the River sometimes, but when a song about "Pain without love...", or something similar comes on, we change it to KGOR the Oldies station. We avoid stations that play "My Humps" but if it happens to come on, we listen, have fun, but talk about why we don't sing it in public.
Bottom line - our family has a ton of dialogue. We're not afraid of the media we just choose not to worship it (thus giving it power) like many families do - whether they realize it or not.