Did I Handle This Correctly?

Good job mom! It only took 1 time for me to leave an entire cart full of my groceries with the manager to store until I got back after my daughter pitched a fit.

We left the store immediately, went home. When hubby got home, I went to the grocery, retrieved my cart from the cooler per the manager, finished shopping and went home.

Daughter never had an episode line that again. She's almost 19 now, well rounded and no harm done from removing her from the situation.

Yes, you did. You removed her from the situation and made it clear that a tantrum will NOT get her what she wants.

If you had caved and bought her the toy to stop the tantrum? She would do that the next time she didn't get her way.

If something like this happens again? Remind her what happened last time she threw a fit. She didn't get her way and she won't again.

YOU GO MAMA!!!

Yep, everybody's been there. I used to immediately leave and put my dd in time out when we got home. I kept reminding her when we were driving home why we left (so she wouldn't forget)

Bravo....bravo....bravo! You get five GOLD stars from me for sure because most of the time what I see is the kids throwing a fit and the parent standing there like a courtroom drama trying to reason with a tantrumming toddler! I also see the infamous bribery tactics or idle threats.....if you stop crying right now I will get you the toy. If you don't stop crying we are leaving right now......and 40 minutes later they are still shopping!

Good job and congrats! I now induct you into the "I have a backbone and I actually want to PARENT my child Club!" Keep up the very good choices and excellent work!

Yes, mama. I teach things to my son in little, easy-to-remember rhymes and for tantrums = fun is DONE. It will NEVER get you what you want. It's gotten better, we just whisper to him now "what happens when we tantrum? is that what you want?" It usually snaps him out of it.

This is NEVER fun and we've all walked out of places with our screaming kids under our arms. Just because they're unhappy doesn't mean you handled it wrong.

Stay strong!

Yep. You get nothing for throwing a baby fit. Other than sent to your room.
Do the harder work now; in the long run, it does pay off. They don't have to like it for it to be effective.

yep, dead-on perfect! Good job, Mom!

Absolutely. If you had given in and bought the toy, she would "have your number" but good! She'd do this everytime you go somewhere.

Make sure she has had nap and food BEFORE you go shopping. Tired, cranky and hungry kids have short fuses.

Go to amazon.com and click on books. Look for The Berenstain Bears Get the Gimmes" and buy it. Read it to her over and over. Tell her how silly the little girl bear looks, having a tantrum in the floor of the store. She will eventually get it, IF you NEVER let her have what she wants when she does it. Take her out of the store, stick her in her carseat and strap her in. Stand outside of the car until she is done. Ask her "Are you ready to behave?" and don't act sweet and sugary, either. Be tough with her. Then take her back into the store again and finish your shopping. If she starts this stuff again, repeat.

When you get her home, put her in her room and tell her that she has to think about her bad behavior by herself. Keep her in there for at least a half hour. Don't let her watch any TV for the rest of the day, or play with any electronics. Tell her that little girls who have ugly tantrums in stores don't get privileges.

Do this every single time and you will have a child who understands how to behave out in public. I kid you not.

Yup 100% I work retail I hate it when kids are screaming from the time they walk in until they leave because they were told no. So high five mom

ABSOLUTELY and congratulations. You are a great first time mom.

Absolutely. If you had given in and bought the toy, you would have created a little monster that acted like this every time you went to a store. You HAVE to nip this stuff in the bud immediately to prevent major problems in the future.

Yes. When she screams you calmly take her home. She might need a nap, too.

Yes.
And then each time she acts that way, do the same thing.

You also have to tell her, BEFORE you go to a store, that it is not to buy toys etc. And that, screaming about something, gets her nothing. Then a kid may say "if I don't scream and am nice, can I get something?" (my kids would say that, because to a young child it makes sense). BUT so, you ALSO have to explain, that no, even if they are nice it does not mean they get a toy, each time.
Because THEN, you will get into another.... vicious cycle of them expecting something EACH time they are "nice."
SO then, you have to, teach a child that buying toys is NOT a given. It is NOT according to if they are nice or not. And that, behaving is not based on toys or buying stuff. Because if you do... then each age they get, even if older, they will equate getting a toy, to each time they are nice.
AND then if they don't get anything, they will not do it. Or they will only do things IF they get a toy or reward.

So for me, I don't teach my kids that they get a reward/toy each time per if they are nice or not. Life does not work that way.
Behaving in a FAMILY, is about, learning to behave and being respectful and doing what needs to be done etc. As a child gets older, they have to learn that. Even in school.
A kid can't go through life, and then become an adult, thinking that each thing they do gets them a "toy" or money or etc.

Never - ever - ever give in to a tantrum. Once you do, they have one and they will continue to do the behavior since it worked for them in the past.

Good job, Mom!

Perfect! He hopefully learned a lesson today! Have a great weekend.

Yep. Good job! You gave her a chance to pull it together and calm down and when she didn't, you stuck to your guns and removed her from the situation. She'll learn quickly you mean business, and probably won't pull this again!

Totally fine. Tantrums don't get to win.

One thing I started explaining to my kiddo was that the stuff in the store belongs to the store, and that we're not going to buy everything. If he wanted to play with something while I shopped, he was allowed, but we had to leave it with the store because it was theirs (always picked a very sturdy toy :)

99% of the time, this worked.

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Great job! Also, buy the book 1-2-3 Magic. It is a wonderful book full of great information.

That's exactly what I did when my daughter threw a tantrum in the store. It only happened a couple of times, because she figured out pretty quickly that tantrums got her nothing but a trip home and time alone in her room without anything to do.

The only way to do it! Good job.

Perfect!!

My kids tried that maybe once or twice - I would totally ignore them; they learned pretty quickly their tantrums didn't work on me.

Good luck!!

That depends on whether or not it worked. What was your goal, and did you accomplish it, or did it put you on the path to accomplishing it? Did you also talk to her about what happened and why, and what you expect from her? Are you clear with yourself about what you expect and want to teach her regarding what happened at the store? Do you want her not to throw tantrums? Do you want her to heed your NO? Do you want her not to want things? Or not to express that she wants things?

If you're not clear, then she won't be clear, either.

Yep. It's hard at first to fight the good fight fight, but you have taught her it is unacceptable to act like this, and you are not going to give in and reward her for inappropriate behavior. She may try again, but she will get it soon enough. Also...believe it or not this is the foundation for trust in your relationship. The whole "children need structure and boundaries" thing.
And then when they are a little older and ask why you won't let them do whatever they want; you can tell them you had to take a 'mean test' before you could become a mom. I tell mine that's why they were both born late~ because I didn't pass my mean test the first time around ;)

Sounds good to me. And lucklily, you usually only have to do that kind of thing once before they get the picture. Here's to hoping you nipped that behavior in the bud!

Yes, you handled it correctly.