I love her, as does my husband, lol. I was really scattered and have tendencies to try to tackle 50 projects at once and then not finish any of them. Or other days, I'd be overwhelmed and not do ANYTHING just because I didn't know where to start. I found her encouraging words, seeing that other people had issues similar to mine, and how to break things down into tangible steps really, really helped me.
I did not subscribe to emails (that is an OPTION that you can always say no to!) because I don't like receiving emails that are random. I think I do occasionally get a little something of interest on facebook from her site, but that is all. (I also don't get emails from this site, facebook, or anything else: they go to a junk email that I have and really never use unless I've ordered something and am tracking it, or if I bid on ebay.
What really worked for me: stupid as it sounds, that shining the sink thing! And the habit of taking a shower and getting fully dressed so that I don't fall into the dreaded housewife slump (physically, emotionally, as well as "tangibly") that is so easy to do. Don't get me wrong: I dress comfortably ALL the time, even when going out, but there's a mental shift when you are fully dressed (even if casual) and ready to take on the day. I remember VERY well (unfortunately) what flylady calls "CHAOS" (can't have anyone over syndrome) when I was growing up. Mom would flip out and crack the whip on us to run around like little madmen so that the house would be presentable if someone said they were coming over in an hour. I'm very happy to say that my family will never have to live with that kind of mess OR stress. My house is not and will never be "a museum", but it is always a place that I can feel perfectly comfortable about people dropping in unannounced, and that gives me a little pride and peace. The division of housework did help. That checklist helps me so I don't overlook some things that I don't think of often. Another thing I love: THE TIMER. It helps me not get sucked in too deep and spend all my time on say, mamapedia, or one project...it also helps prevent me from quitting too soon just because I don't "like" it. And with my boys, it's a tangible way for them to start understanding time and they have to do their little chores too! I'm not doing everything for everybody--the family is a team.
All that said, I just used flylady as inspiration, and a sort of template, and I do my OWN thing. I got a 3 ring binder and put dividers in it, and that's my household manual. (Mom made fun of me for this, until she came to visit me when the baby was born and never had to ask a question because everything was in there and ran so smoothly). I think everyone's journal could be tailored to their own family's needs or personality, as long as they have the basics in place, and it's a general thing to keep me on track but the world won't end if an event comes up and we move off the paper for a minute (ha). My personal manual's dividers are:
1) Basic Weekly Plan--this is what I do each week in basic chunks of time on different days, and includes the homeschool pre-k thing we're doing and other activities (storytime at the library, kung fu, sparring class, horses, and a weekly field trip, etc), and FlyLady's weekly checklist (what needs to be done in each room in a week period, every week...this is good because I really wouldn't think to clean out the fridge or change drip pans if it wasn't on the list to do...) I used the weekly checklist to help me make a weekly routine that not only covers the fun stuff like outside activities, pre-k time, and field trips but also to help me divide the house into little blocks so I can make sure everything on the weekly checklist (cleaning wise) gets done. I went a step further and made a list of what I view are our needs, and try to plug in something every week that nourishes those areas (spirit, emotional, intellectual, social, financial, community/volunteering, etc)
2) Daily Routines--I used her morning and evening routines as basic templates, but made my own to suit my lifestyle and our needs. They are probably the best things I've taken from flylady---the evening routine really sets up the next day to be a success and not just heads in the clouds.
3) Zones. Flylady divides your house into 5 zones and gives detailed lists to complete each zone. Those are cool. And they make sense with my house. If they didn't, I'd just tweak them.
4)Budget---Here I chose to keep a basic weekly/monthly budget (not the heavy stuff which is on my computer, and something similar to a check register...but just a short version that I can refer to at a glance when out somewhere to know where I'm at on my budget.
5)Menu/List--this is my weekly menu, and the shopping list that goes with it. I do keep them for the month because I don't want to get in the rut of eating one thing every week (BLAH--boring, and husband wouldn't like it either). This helped me a lot financially, but also in helping me incorporate a new meal every week, and also helps me make sure that we're getting good nutrition overall. Yeah, we'll have hamburgers or whatever, but over the course of the week, our nutrition is great. And the shopping list is right there for anyone to add something as they notice they're running low (shaving cream, spray starch, etc).
6) Helpful numbers: anything from the neighbors, coaches, mother's day out, our favorite take out, etc. This helped a lot when mom was here to help out, because she didn't necessarily know everyone's name to look them up in my address book, but in this tab she could say "Ok, neighbor....or I need to call Joe's MDO", when she didn't necessarily know the name of the place, just where it was. And of course, Jason's Deli delivered lunch every day she was here, lol.
Tabs 7 and 8 are "Projects" (what I'm currently working on and need by me---right now it's a Bible study, a book, and preparing my other house to be listed and rented out) and "Misc, Notes" which would be just any random thing that needs to be written down to look at later (most usually someone on the phone with me while I'm in a parking lot and I just need to jot down what they said and will do it later....or something that caught my eye that I want to look at later).
I know that sounds like a lot, but it took me about a week of thoughtful planning and thinking to get my manual together and start using it successfully. I'm not a super anal person: I have down time, I'm on here several times a day during the week, read, have time to pray and exercise, etc. But I also found that with discipline and planning, I can really get everything that needs to be done, DONE. And that's awesome. And if something comes up (doctor appointments, hurt leg, out of town guests, a cool community event), we don't sweat it. We can veer away from the manual knowing that it's going to be there when we want to pick it up again. So....yeah, I really liked flylady and learned a lot from her (specifically how to organize, how to think differently, how to get things done and feel good about myself for it, and how to NOT beat myself up if I don't succeed at all my goals that day).
My mom (who used to make fun of me) now uses her own version of my version. A family friend swears it actually saved their marriage. And now my brother is (SECRETLY) using his version. He's a sahd and awesome at it, but there were areas that he thought were helpful as well.