Diapering

I had the exact same issue with my daughter. She was thatway with anyone but me. Not that she didn't fight me too, just not to the extent of which she faught everyone else. I think it just may be a phase and give it some time.

My daughter had the same issues with her dad when she was about that age. I noticed after watching him several times that he wasn't doing a thorough job with the wipes. When I asked him he said he was afraid he was going to hurt her. (first time dad!!) He also was trying to adjust the diaper to give her more room at the bottom. I explained that she is not a boy, therefore didn't need the extra room in her diaper. lol. In the long run she still preferred me, I guess because I seem to change her most often and we were more comfortable together.
This might not be your issue though. It could also just be her age. You know how us girls are!!

does she resist when you do the diaper changes? my lttle girl is only 6 months old and fights with any body who changes her because she doesn't want to lay still. maybe his hands are rough or putting the diaper on too tight. maybe he just isn't doing it the same way you do and it just aggrevates her...maybe you should watch what he does to see if you can see if some thing he is or isn't doing is setting her off.

You know what? That's weird that you said that, because I think it's just a phase. For a while, and it was just about that exact age, my daughter would cry if her dad changed her diaper. Honestly, I think that girls begin to develop feelings of privacy and embarrassment at that age. My daughter is now 4 and if she has to go "poopy" she'll come to me and whisper it and she always tells me to not tell anyone. She knows already that sometimes it can be embarrassing, and always a more private matter. She doesn't care which one of us wipes her butt anymore, me or her daddy, but when she was your daughter's age she did. I knew it had nothing to do with anything that my husband did because first of all, he's not one of those sick psychos, but also simply because he was working a ton of hours back then and I was always there with the kids and around when he was home because it would be right before the kids' bedtime. So, I'd just let it go, she'll get past it. I wouldn't worry about forcing her to let him either. I always went over and changed her when she'd get upset and like I said, now she's fine with either of us helping her after she's used the bathroom. Kids are so so smart. She's just starting to develop her own little identity.

Ask her to show or tell you why she doesn't like daddy doing it. Maybe use a doll and haver her show you what she doesn't like. If you can get her to comunicate whats wrong you can then show dad so he can correct what she isn't liking.

just a thought...
i wonder if children of that age may have some inkling of their gender and perhaps aren't comfortable - girls with dads and boys with moms. of course i don't know for sure. i agree with some of the comments - maybe rough hands and independence are the real issues. try talking to her and tell her it's ok for daddy to change the diaper or ask her what's wrong. i don't know.
good luck.

Maybe she don't want Dad to do it. There's nothing wrong with it! Maybe she wants just Mommie to do it. And I believe she does love her Dad, but she wants Mommie to do it. Just keep working with her and sooner or later she will relize Dad is going to do it weather she likes it or not and then she might change on how she feels, ( Dad I don't want you to change my diaper ), and everything will be ok and she will let Dad do it. And have you guys tried to potty train her? Try that, together, and she how she feels about that. And maybe she will come around. Just keep working at it, ok.

I am goin thru something similar with my 21 month old. My problem is not with his dad tho.. its with me! My son is goin thru a stage where he doesn't want me to do anything for him. He would rather have his daddy, or any of his grandparents do things for him.

At bedtime I try to brush his teeth and he used to love for me to brush his teeth.. then i try to pick him up to give him a hug and he starts screaming, kicking, hitting or pinching if I accomplish picking him up cuz he likes to go limp when i try to pick him up now n just go to the floor instead of lettin me pick him up.

This really hurts my feelings and I have found myself sheddin tears silently off in the other room when this happens but my friends reassure me this is a phase and he will be over it soon.

During the day my son will let me do all kinds of things for him and my little buddy when daddy is at work, but once daddy comes home its a whole new story. I work a few nights a week for a few hours and when I leave he tells me bye and when I come back home he is all excited to see me and wants a hug.

I dont believe it is anything your childs dad has done .. i believe it is a phase.. lets just hope its a quick one!!

The only thing I can say about this is she is 2. They want to be independent, yet obviously still need us. So she fights to prove her independence. Its called the terrible twos and as long as that is the worse of it, consider yourself very lucky. ;) Eventually she will be this way with you too, and it could be a sign that potty training is in your near future too. I hope this helps good luck!

she's 23 mo..hahaha. just age appropriate behavior.. i asked the same thing about my 18mo old at her dr appt.. thinking she must have something wrong down there since she didn't like me cleaning her,, but she is past it now,, nothing was wrong with her physically,,she was just being a toddler..it will pass ;-)