I feel horrible, i know she does love me but she always wants to be with him, all my other friends with baby girls they are so attached to their moms and my baby is not.
What can I do?
Please know that this is probably a phase of her development and that your husband needs to bond with her just as much as you do. Also, please be grateful that you have a loving husband who is there for your child and for you. I know many single moms who would give a kidney to have the father in the picture.
It's a phase. When I and my friends who also had a baby/toddler around the same age would get together, invariably, the other mom would have 2 kids (hers and mine) in her lap, crawling to her, etc. Their kid (nor mine!) would never come to me because of course most kids would go to their own moms, but mine didn't. :(
But last night he (7yo now) painted "I love you mom" for me and "I love you dad" for each of us. (And this was on the same day he wrote a note and tried to show it to a friend sitting behind us in church "I wish you were my dad") sigh/LOL.
Look on the bright side. You get to do things! Your husband can help unlike some who WANT their husbands to help but their kids wont accept it. Enjoy it while you can. Think positive and always remember, she DOES love you! Don't take it personally.
My husband stayed home with our daughter after she was born. She is 4 now and still prefers her Daddy over me. I try to be patient and not allow her see how much it bothers me. I make sure that we have girls days out so it's just me and her. We try to do fun, girly things that Daddy wouldn't like anyway. Hang in there and continue to love her and be patient.
Good Luck!
I too felt this way with my baby four years ago. My pediatrician reassured me that this is a phase that most children go through. They will go through a phase where all they want is their daddy, and then as time goes by, they will change and it will be all mommy! :-) And it happened just like that too. May take a while, but don't fret. She will come around. :-)
Are you a stay at home mom? I find that my daughter wants the parent that isn't around. She may cry for you when you leave but your husband doesn't mention it or maybe try going out without her for a few hours. Either way, she will change. My daughter changes her favorite parent every other week.
In the same boat but with my son. He's 3-1/2 and prefers my husband over me. However, I understand that it tis just a phase. I also noticed that kids like deep voices and that is one of the reasons. I know that right now it hurts but let it run its course and remember, she loves you still. A question, are you a stay at home mom or does she generally see you more? I work full time but early hours so I can spend some alone time with my son. However, when my husband comes home, I'm chopped suey. It's that he doesn't see my husband as much as he sees me. ALso, men are calmer than women. We generally are the displanary ones and dads are the fun ones. Don't worry, this will pass. One day she'll favor to you.
What you can do is not worry! I have 4kids and I have watched them swing from my husband to me and back again. It's so hard when they're not so in to you but trust me, the favoritism will shift in a few months and it will be your turn to be center stage in your daughters heart.
-J.
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That happened to me also. My daughter wanted to be held by her dad all of the time and never wanted me. This went on for almost 8 months, I think. It was hard on me, but I read some literature on it, and it is just a stage and it's nothing we are doing wrong. My daughter is 6 yrs. now and we are very close! It will pass, I promise.
My son has gone back and forth. Right now he loves Daddy (he takes care of him all day then works at night when I'm home). During the summER hE became A Total MAMA's Boy. (sorRY for THE Funny CAPITALIzation, my son was playing with CAPS Lock as I typed).
I know how you feel. My 2 year old little girl is doing the same thing right now. I know that it is hard but there will be a time when all your little girl will want is her momma. I am taking advantage of this time and the fact that she wants to be with her daddy and going and doing some things by myself. We all need a little me time and I think that our kids know it and that is why they switch from parent to parent. Don't stress out too much she will come back and not want anything to do with her daddy and be all about momma!!!
K.,
Don't compare to others and ENJOY. This is a wonderful opportunity for your daughter to bond with her father and provide you some time to yourself. It is only a stage. My daughter ADORES her father and early on only daddy could do things for her "not mommie" I got dissed daily from her. Now she's 3.5 and its all about wanting Mommie now.
Every child and every releationship is different. You would not be concerned if you weren't comparing yourself or if the others had daughters who bonded with their fathers first. Your turn is coming...dolls and shopping are more fun with Mommie.
D
