Decreased Libido - Woodbridge,VA

My current dilemma is that my libido is way down! For the majority of woman intimacy is linked to emotions and right now it is really hard juggling my life; Full time job, managing my household plus two young kids (2 & 1). My husband is slowly helping around our house but a shortened version of him helping out:
Our gas fireplace has not been used all winter despite my request for my husband to figure out how to use it because our downstairs never stays warm and out 17 y/o bedroom is on that level. Last night , for no apparent reason, he disappears, leaving me with the kids. Later, and only cause the kids kept calling him, I find out he was working on the fireplace. He did figure it out and we were able to watch a movie in the rec room without blankets once the kids where in bed.
But see here is where the priorities are different. I am trying hard to appreciate what he does, ask for help, praise him when he completes task ect but I feel like I am raising 4 children instead of 3 most of the time and this is interfering with our intimacy. We do date night every other week so any suggestions as to how to get that attraction & desire back would be greatly appreciated
In response to Robyn M: No micro managing, I just let him do what he wants and when I feel overwhelmed I finally ask for help cause I know he won’t throw me attitude when I don’t ask all the time. Its complicated but my shortened version is that my husband is an only child with a mother who has always managed their entire family with little to no help from my father in law. This “learned behavior” will not change overnight and has actually gotten better over the years
Robin M: B vitamin shots and vitamin D3 I will have to look into because I know a few months ago the doctor told me I am not getting enough vitamin D but I have been so busy I forgot thanks for the reminder