K.S.
I am the stressed spouse who has more work responsibilities than my DH has. My husband has found ways to take over for duties at home that he can easily do, and when I ask, he usually finds a way to do extra things. He knows when certain large work volume times of the year that I won't be cooking or cleaning. He takes care of DD when he is home and I've had to bring work home. Basically, we have set it up that he will take care of things when I'm busy with work. When we can be a family, we make an effort to have family time by exercising, going to the movies or finding some family-friendly event in town. I've decided to make my designated family time the time to let it all go and enjoy myself. I hope that alleviates the stress around the house. Even though it will be a big dent in our family income, I think I am going to go down in hours soon to see if my life will be more sane as a result.