At 9 it's time for her to learn that Santa doesn't always bring what's on her list, even if he has in the past. Make sure you let her know that some children are hoping to have a home for Christmas, so they don't have to sleep in a car or a shelter. Tell her that her list is a "wish" list, but that Santa isn't obligated to bring anything on it, he brings what he knows a child needs. (As a young child of 5 I remember receiving socks from my grandmother, pretty ones with ruffles on the top, but still socks. I wasn't happy but got lots of use out of them. Now as a grandma I love to give socks sometimes, and actually have a granddaughter who LOVES them, the wilder the better.) Tell her that she should be thankful and grateful for whatever Santa brings her.
Are there any food drives going on at her school or in the community? There was one at my nephew's school this past week, my sister and I went through everything and had two paper shopping bags full of boxes and canned goods. It ended on Wednesday but I called the office and they said they could still accept things on Thursday, so he had to make a special trip to the office. He's 10 so was a bit embarrassed, but the secretary praised and thanked him and told him that what he took in will definitely help a lot, so when he came out he was happy.
He also put together a shoe box for Operation Christmas Child, he has for a few years now. (In the past I've known people who didn't want to participate because they thought all the boxes go out of the country. They don't, some stay here in the U.S.) He has lots of fun picking things out for a boy his age, knowing this is probably all the child will receive for Christmas. Next year we plan to take him and two of my grandchildren to our local distribution center to work for the day so they can see the bigger picture.
If you go to church inquire there if they are planning anything to assist in the community. They may be collecting clothing and toys for needy children. Scan your local newspaper or watch the news for opportunities for you and her to help in some way, show her that Christmas is about giving, not getting.
And if she's disappointed with what she receives for Christmas remind her that Santa brings what children need, and ask her if she would like to donate her gifts.
Merry Christmas!